10 Of The Creepiest Stories About Online Dating
I’ve always been a big proponent of online dating because it is where I met my current boyfriend. We have the dog and the apartment and the co-oped couch and it all seems to be really working out well, so I rarely have hesitation when it comes to suggesting to friends to get out there in the online dating world. With a reported 40 million people using online dating as their primary source of meeting people, it is clear I’m not the only one giving this advice.
However, in retrospect I’m also able to recognize the dangers in it. I’ve seen Single White Female and I’m able to look back at the fact that I met my boyfriend in a dark bar without letting anyone know and think “that was dumb.” But, just how creepy and weird can online dating get? I was really curious to know what so many people had reservations about it, and what had happened to get them to that point. So, naturally, I turned to ten of my friends and asked them “what crazy shit has happened to you while you’ve dated online?” If you’re able to get through these and immediately boot up Tinder after, you’re a braver man than me.
Kelly, 25, “Weirdest, strangest thing that has come from Tinder is a guy messaged me saying, ‘I see you every morning before Biology class, you have an iced Americano in your hand usually…but I prefer to remain a mystery.’ before blocking me!”
Michael, 30, “So I tried Grindr out for the first time a year ago and put up my picture and everything was going great. Then, I started talking to this really cute guy and we set up a date to meet at a bar in Chelsea Village. When I got there, however, it was clear the guy had taken the photo at least 15 years ago. I was polite and talked to him for 10 minutes when he informed me that he was an amateur horror film director and wanted to know if I would like to see his work. Needless to say he may have been legit, but I got the hell out of there and called him out on his old photos.”
William, 23, “I matched with a girl on Tinder, we grabbed dinner and everything was going great. I didn’t want to stop the date, so I asked her if she would be interested in watching a movie at her place. She agreed and I thought for a moment maybe I was going to get lucky tonight. While making out on her couch, though, I asked her if she could put her dog in her bedroom because he was staring at us. Her saying “no” would’ve been chill if she hadn’t followed it up with “he likes to watch.”
Jenny, 26, “I’ve met guys on OkCupid who will send me love poems one hour, then a tirade on my character for not answering the other. It’s truly shocking and disturbing how sensitive men get on dating apps when you don’t write back right away.”
Michelle, 25, “I went on one date with a guy in college before we went home for the holidays in December. All we did was grab a quick 30 minute cup of coffee and I figured we’d have a real date after the New Year. Turns out I made such an impression he contacted my younger sister on Facebook to get my address and send me a Christmas present. Sweet, but mostly creepy.”
Christopher, 28, “I once told a guy I was sick to get out of a date we had planned on Tinder. He said he understood but a few hours later he knocked on my door with homemade soup he had made from scratch. He told me he wanted me to feel better; I told him I had no idea how he knew where I lived.”
Elijah, 26, “I’ve talked to girls for days in full-on soul-bearing text detail only to ask for their Snapchat or something and have them ghost me. Finally, one time I decided to call one of their numbers and an older guy picked up the phone…so many catfish.”
Danielle, 21, “I’ve talked to guys and they’ve seemed totally normal and fine until they start randomly sending me dick pics without prompting. There is something sinister about online dating that seems to signal to men that it is okay to send me their dicks.”
McKayla, 29, “I think by far the scariest, most insane thing that has happened to me with online dating is setting up a date with a guy and having his girlfriend show up instead and having to explain to her that her man was cheating on her. Yup.”
Erik, 27, “I matched with a guy on Tinder a year back and we had a bunch of mutual friends so I assumed he was legit. He seemed too good to be true, and it turns out it that’s because he was! Shortly after setting up a date, he started to tell me he had a stalker who was hacking his phone and reading our text messages. He said it was probably a friend of his ex and that he should stay away from me for a while for my “protection.” Two nights later he hit me up drunkenly demanding to see my nude pictures. A class act.”