Things We Hate Admitting

One could argue that, with the advent of social media, it’s become harder than ever to admit to our shortcomings. With Facebook, Twitter and Instagram acting as the poor man’s publicist, men of all ages have crafted a concept of self that is painfully thought-out and void of any real flaws. After all, who wants to know that you hate your job when you could be showing the world how funny you are?

But even for those of us less affected by social media, there are certain things we hate admitting about ourselves, because they shed light on our perceived inadequacies and insecurities. However, the good news is — and there is good news — that once you admit to them, that’s usually the first step to self-improvement. With that in mind, let’s begin with No. 10.

10. I Spend Way Too Much Time Watching TV

It’s Monday morning and a few of your colleagues are exchanging stories about what they did over the weekend. One took a trip upstate with his wife while the other talks about a dinner he prepared using his new grill. When they ask about yours you hesitate. Because you spent the lion’s share of the weekend watching Family Guy. And while that resulted in a well-deserved high five the first time, now it’s just embarrassing. It’s embarrassing because you have nothing better to do — or, rather, because you continue to choose television over everything else — and the kicker is that you aren’t even watching shows (say, Orange Is the New Black) that would make for an interesting critique on the state of television. It’s time to put the remote control down.

9. I Don’t Really Read A Lot

There was a stigma associated with being well-read in high school. Today, as adults, there’s one with being unable to keep up in a literary conversation. When The Great Gatsby was released earlier this year, your comments (if any) were superficial. You talked about the actors, the directors, the soundtrack — but any comparisons to the book flew over your head.

Don’t you hate it when someone begins their thought with, “Remember that article the Times ran last month about…” and you sit there already feeling defeated because you have no idea what they’re talking about? Reading for leisure isn’t for everyone, and it’s hard to admit it’s not your thing.

8. My Wife Picks Out What I Wear

When someone compliments you on how you look, it feeds more than your ego, because how you present yourself silently broadcasts your taste — but what if that taste isn’t your own? More often than not, girlfriends and wives play the role of personal stylist, which is sometimes welcome (after all, it’s one less thing to worry about), but it brings to the surface some questions: Are you really unable to dress sharply on your own?Who’s wearing the pants in the relationship? Admitting that your wife dresses you, and has that power, is something no man wants to seriously fess up to.

7. I Can’t Afford The Finer Things In Life

Unless you’re making Kanye money, you’re not going to lose sleep over a missed opportunity to ride the Virgin Galactic. But the “finer things” in life is totally subjective. Maybe a $40 brunch makes you uncomfortable because you are thousands of dollars in debt. Wherever you fall on the money continuum, not having enough to afford certain luxuries — as simple as some of them are — is something that’s near impossible to admit for any man.

6. I Haven’t Traveled A Lot

Travel allows us to connect the dots of life through firsthand experience. It makes us more interesting and, at the very least, makes for some badass pictures. Not being able to afford travel is one thing, but choosing not to is another. (We know financially sound guys who don’t even have passports.) Eventually, every Tom, Dick and Jane has a story about the time they spent two months in Costa Rica learning to surf, while your memories are filled with countless nights at the bar. Lacking in travel is lacking in worldliness, and that’s not something that impresses anyone.

5. I’m Not That Interesting

Sometimes, you find yourself around people who seem to have a never-ending supply of interesting stories, like the time they sat beside Claudia Schiffer on a five-hour flight to Los Angeles. Or the guy who survived a fatal bug bite. Your stories may not compete with the pure entertainment factor of those, so it’s normal to think you’re not as interesting — and it’s certainly something you’d hate admitting. And, because actions speak louder than words, your lack of contribution to the conversation suggests that you aren’t that interesting. The truth is, you probably are — you just need to stop comparing yourself.

4. I’m Not Where I Should Be In Life Right Now

Every so often, we step back and assess the big picture. When things are going well, we pat ourselves on the back and, more importantly, we tend to project the best versions of ourselves to the world. But what happens when you’re going through a rough patch? You’re unhappy at work, you wish you could buy instead of rent, you haven’t met anyone special — you’re not where you should be in life. Sometimes the feeling is so palpable that it’s jarring when someone asks how you’re doing. Admitting that we’re not where we need to be is hard, but it’s usually the first step to self-improvement.

3. I’m Not That Great In Bed

Not being a great lover is so painful to admit that many men avoid entertaining the very thought altogether. Instead, they use illogical reasoning to measure performance in the bedroom, like frequency or their own skewed perception of what went down. If we got report cards for our performance in bed, we suspect that the majority of men would have a lot of work ahead of them.

2. I’m Jealous Of My Best Friend

Jealousy is an ugly trait (ask women if they like the association), so confessing that you’re jealous of your best friend to, say, another buddy — let alone yourself — is about as likely as you crying in front of him. This is because it forces us to acknowledge our inadequacies and insecurities, which, let’s face it, who wants to do? In many ways, being jealous of someone close to you is far more problematic, because it hits closer to home, and when your best friend scores a win in life, sh*t feels more real.

1. I’m Lonely

There are many reasons to feel lonely — not alone, but lonely. Maybe you recently moved to a new city and, while you aren’t friendless, you don’t have your core group of buds around. Maybe you’re single. Maybe you’re in a relationship but still feel isolated. The tricky thing about admitting this, though, is often you don’t realize it when you’re lonely — you might attribute sad feelings to other circumstances in your life (like your job) without realizing that loneliness is the underlying issue.


10 Embarrassing Facts No Guy Ever Wants To Admit

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