10 Women Spill The Reasons Why They Left Their Fiancés At The Altar

Is there any wedding trope more ~*scandalous*~ than leaving someone at the altar?

It seems like something that only happens in movies. But these 10 Reddit users tell the stories of women who left their fiancés at the altar.

Some women leave due to abuse, like turbie did.

He had been abusive and was an alcoholic. He cheated on me and blamed it on my family and tackled me when I tried to leave. So I played along and agreed we’d get married in and move to another state away from my family. I was supposed to meet him there and get married the day I arrived. I never got on the plane and changed my phone number and quit my job.

Vaguely_Saunter‘s mom bailed at the last minute, in part because her alcoholic fiancé hadn’t paid for a single part of the wedding.

My mom left my dad at the altar. I guess she got to the parking lot and just realized what a mistake the whole thing was. I guess he was a super controlling alcoholic, and despite having a good paying job was super cheap. So she’d paid for her own wedding ring and the entire wedding herself without him contributing anything. She realized it was one thing to put up with that shit herself, but she didn’t want a kid to grow up around that.

She told her best friend to tell everyone to enjoy the catering and the party she’d paid for but she wasn’t going to be there and drove off.

PwrFlower‘s friend left at the last minute after dealing with angry accusations from her fiancé.

Not me, a friend.

The day of the wedding we were with her at a beauty centre. She had her wedding ring on. But when we were out she didn’t have it. Don’t know if it was lost or stolen She was definitely sad but not breaking the wedding sad.

When her fiancé found out he went on full beast mode that made her cry. And accused her mother of stealing the ring. He and her mother had troubles before. But no way her mother stole it.

He apologized and the wedding went on. But at the alter he joked about it or something and she couldn’t take it anymore and just walked away. She knew he’d never let it go.

kirsten714 left because her fiancé said he wasn’t ready — but the truth was way worse.

I was left two weeks before my wedding, last year. He claimed he was scared and just needed more time. We had been together over four years and engaged for a year and two months. What really happened still blows my mind. He had been having an affair and even before I found out, which took months, people were coming to me about how he had done this or that during the time we were together. Like, why tf didn’t you tell me before? I was oblivious and blinded by love and the future we had planned. Everything caught me off guard and I’m just now starting to recover, 10 months later.

One bride left her fiancé because she realized she was gay, according to clearly_i_mean_it.

My good friend left her fiancé the night before their wedding. It was Texas in the early 90s, and she was engaged to a (nice enough) man. He’d always told her she was more than welcome to fool around with women as she liked. They were sitting there the night before they got married and she told him she couldn’t do it because she was a lesbian, she’d always been a lesbian, and she just hadn’t ever been able to accept it.

It was hard on both of them, but in the end better that she finally was able to say it before they actually tied the knot.

This groom was cheating with a teenager, according to metasymphony.

Happened to a distant friend of mine: she found out that her would-be husband was cheating on her, on the morning of their wedding day. The girl he was cheating with was a guest at the wedding, and she saw the preparations and how much the bride loved him, broke down in tears and told the bride.

The girl he was cheating with was 19, his friend’s younger sister I think. I have her added on social media, she grew up into a good person.

The bride has moved to a different city and is happy in a relationship with a woman now. I remember the groom being depressed about the whole thing but don’t know what happened to him after that.

It seems ineedadonutplease‘s fiancé was using his illness to mask a pill addiction.

I didn’t leave him at the alter but broke it off literally 2 weeks before the wedding.

I paid for everything in the relationship since my ex had cancer. He told everyone he was terminal but outlived his predicted expiration. I will admit on my part that getting in a relationship with someone terminally ill is not everyone’s cup of tea but I’m a mentally strong person and believed in living in the moment. He also had an elementary school aged daughter who I bonded with very closely. She began to call me mommy and her birth mother agreed to a step parent adoption after the wedding.

On top of this, my ex was also a pill addict. He took morphine because of the pain of his cancer so there were times he was high out of his mind. I spent more time with his daughter than him and we probably went on a date alone without her less than 5 times in our year and a half relationship.

Nonetheless, I had purpose and felt fulfilled providing for my future family. There were many flags but when brought up we would compromise. One of the biggest issues is I wanted a prenup. He began to literally cry asking me why I would start a marriage that way. We compromised to pre marital counseling.

Because of him being sick, my needs (emotionally, physically, sexually) were usually pushed to the side. Especially with a child in the mix, it was never my time to resolve my issues. Whenever I wanted to bring up issues, he usually wasn’t in the state of mind, or it just wasn’t a good time. I felt counseling would give a safe place, just us two, and I could bring up issues.

A month before the wedding, I brought him a business card from a couple’s counselor and he told me “we don’t have time for that. “ I commuted 2 hours a day to work, bought the house he was living in, made all the income, brought his daughter to school in the morning (because he didn’t believe in waking up in the single digits), and took care of her when he was too high. It took me an additional two weeks but I came home early from work one day to talk.

There was so much left to do for the wedding and he didn’t contribute with any planning nor financially. I waited for him to get home from picking his daughter up so we could talk. I was extremely upset. After waiting around for an hour, I realized he wasn’t coming home any time soon. I texted him and immediately I got a bunch of texts like “oh we’re coming home soon”, “she’s [his daughter] is having so much fun”, etc. i realized I was done waiting for him. Constantly waiting. I told him don’t worry about it and made MY decision that I was done. I went out, got drunk, came home late and slept on the couch.

The next day, he had this spiel about how much he loved me and told me we could do premarital counseling a month after the wedding. I just ended it after his rant, not acknowledging anything he said. Emotionally, I was done. I moved on because it was clear to me I was being used.

Today I’m happy, I get harassed every now and then by him. I’m in a healthy relationship and have a cat! Life is good. I just wish I ended it sooner.

MoonStruckBear realized an 18-year-old probably shouldn’t be making massive life decisions.

Like most others her, not at the altar but the week of wedding. I waited until he went to work. I packed everything I had into my car. Ran off the the beach with another man. I was 18, my fiancée was 25. I just woke up that morning and decided that I couldn’t do it. I couldn’t get married when I didn’t even have any idea what I wanted to do with my life. Ten years later and I feel like I broke that man. I’ve moved on. He is still stuck. The last two times I’ve seen him he’s asked me to give him another chance.

Zenith931 might have the only broken-off engagement that’s the result of World of Warcraft emails?

I didn’t leave my ex fiance at the altar, but we had been engaged for about a year or so. We had been together for a year or so before. He bought a house, had a great job, I was working through college. I was really into WoW and played. Formed a few friendships from that game. I began to notice that the person I was when I was with him was not the person I was online. It took me a long time (even after the breakup) for me to piece together what was going on. He was pretty manipulative, but not really in a horrible way, but more in how he’d get you to do what he’d want. As time went on I realized that I wasn’t happy with him. I didn’t want to be the meek housewife for him that he wanted. He subtlety pushed me away from everything I used to enjoy and it took meeting new friends on WoW to realize it. I remember very keenly that one day I was mowing the lawn and thinking about how I would break up with him and move back to my parents. I had no idea at the time why I thought that. I thought I was happy.

He went away on a trip for a week and as the time got closer for him to come back I had more and more dread. I didn’t want him to come back.

Eventually, he found the emails I had been sending to my WoW friends. None of them were bad, but he thought they were. We broke off the engagement. I continued to live there for a few months until I started university and moved back to my parents. I fully kind of “woke up” from his manipulation there and ceased all contact.

A year later, I met my current husband and he’s been continually amazing every day.

nmuncer‘s acquaintance was having nun of her engagement.

She was 35, virgin and into religion, left him just before the wedding night and joined a convent. God won I guess.



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