16 Things Women Want You To Know About Going Down On Them

1. Learn where the clitoris is and that there’s more to it than just the “doorbell.”

“Go to Google and type this in: VAGINA. Now, take a good look at where the clitoris is. Seriously, it’s really not all that difficult.” —Lúu Novaski

2. The clitoris is sensitive…and not just to pleasure.

“Don’t be frantically licking all over it like there’s no tomorrow, just any old way it pleases you. It gets sensitive down there and it’s not pleasurable at all when you overdo it. Go slow, be gentle with it.” —Ana Cicino

3. No stiff tongue!

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“Your tongue is not a penis. Oral sex has to be like a well-placed kiss: moist, unhurried, and organized. It’s not just about seeing how far you can stick your stiff tongue in.” —Camila Leite

4. “Suck” is just a figure of speech.

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“Stop it with the toilet plunger impersonation! The clitoris is a sensitive area! If the girl is pulling back, get a hold of yourself.” —Wanessa Silva Macedo

5. It’s not taffy!

“Stop treating the hood of the clitoris and the lips like they’re taffy. Pulling, stretching, and tugging. Just…no.” —Terumy Reybaud

6. Stop acting like a dog.

“If you’re acting like a dog lapping up water from a dish, you’re probably doing something wrong.” —Maria Eugênia Teixeira

7. The vagina is part of a whole person.


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“Massaging and kissing the vulva (the external part of the vagina), and touching and caressing before beginning oral sex really helps. Don’t forget the rest of the body either, especially the legs and back.” —Luana Shaedler

8. Slow goes a long way.

“Women take longer to climax than men do. Don’t think that three minutes down there is going to get her where she’s going, because it won’t.” —Talita Azevedo

9. She’s fidgeting for a reason.

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“If she’s fidgeting around, don’t keep hitting the same spot! Sometimes she just wants to adjust you without having to say ‘more to the right’ or ‘more to the left.’” —Amanda Kontz

10. Compliment your girl.

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“Many women don’t think they’re very attractive down there, which is bullshit! Take a good look and say, with sincerity, what you like about her vagina and be specific! What’s appealing about the color, shape, scent, taste…” —Luana Shaedler

11. If she’s not saying much, everything is probably good.

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“When the woman is really quiet, sometimes even silent or only lightly moaning, it’s almost always a good sign! Women like this to be a truly intimate moment, with no pressure and especially no rush!” —Luana Shaedler

12. “Like that” means “exactly like that,” not “faster.”

“Rhythm is everything! You’re better off trying to keep the same rhythm than thinking that you need to samba all over the place with your tongue! Did you hear that little gasp? KEEP IT UP!” —Gabriele Bessa

13. Fingers are a tongue’s best friend.

“Finger =
Tongue =
Finger + Tongue =

Luana Shaedler

14. Know when to admit defeat.

“It doesn’t always work. If she pulls you up before you’re finished, the mission was a bust.” —Vick Gerolomo

15. Ladies, stop faking it!

“If someone goes down on you and they’re doing it wrong, even with you feeding them instructions, tell them what’s up! Don’t feel obligated to make them feel better about themselves. Help them learn!” —Patricia Teixeira Monteiro

16. For the love of god, just listen to your partner!

“Women are all different! Sensations are going to feel different from woman to woman. Reading all the oral sex tips in the world won’t help at all if your partner isn’t in the mood or doesn’t like what you’re doing. Communication is the secret!” —Haylana Rucker


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