9 Psychological Tricks To Be The Most Charming Person

9 Psychological Tricks To Be The Most Charming Person

Have you ever noticed that some people could easily gain the trust of everyone and create a positive image of themselves? Jeff Haden, one of the most influential and popular people on LinkedIn and the author of almost 30 business and communication books, explained how they do it. It turns out they know some simple secrets, and today you have a chance to discover them all.

Have you ever thought, for example, how powerful tool a touch is? It helps people understand their emotions better. Expressing your feelings depends on the situation – you could either shake hands or pat someone on the back. This will help you show how sincere your words are, express the right feelings, and gain the trust of others. Interested? Here're really important characteristics that make any person look more confident and charming.



Pot smoking lawyers are back at it again with some very useful advice. This time they brought a celebrity guest to help spread their awareness of shutting the ''F" up. So enjoy some of the last true lawyers the world has to offer.

12 NSFW Pro-Tips Every Person Should Know By Now

12 NSFW Pro-Tips Every Person Should Know By Now


lennyofquirm -- All about those angles, baby.

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When in the cowgirl position place one or two pillows under the gentleman's arse. She will thank you for the improved angle.


themummra -- Can't have that.

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Use cold water to wash cum off. Warm turns it into glue


Sys32768 -- Lotta tips here.

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Men. When going below the equator, it can be a lot easier and better than you think
Put your whole mouth around the clit and surrounding area like you are about to bite an apple. Don't bite though. This has several benefits:
A. You aren't snuffling and slurping whilst you tongue it.
B. Any smells are removed.
C. You can look her in the eye, or just monitor her face
D. Most importantly, you can suck to create a vacuum that will tease the devils doorbell out from under its hood.
E. You can put your arms under her thighs and stroke her tits. Then when it gets close you can lock her in to you by bending your elbows and grabbing on so there is no escape from the joy you are providing.
F. You have put yourself in a comfy position for the task ahead and can easily slide some fingers in if that is desired.
Edit. This activity is best done with you kneeling on the floor by the bed, with your girl lying sideways on the bed in position.


tildenpark -- The classic tip.

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Pee after sex.


DwightandAngela4ever -- Good advice.

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Women, don’t fake orgasms. Communicate with your partner or figure out how to make yourself cum during the act. Communicate to your partner on what feels good!!
Same with men, if your partner isn’t doing things to how you like communicate it so it’s not awkward later down the road.
Honestly I think just being open and honest about sex and foreplay is important in any success sexual relationship.


jaggedstripe -- Jackhammering not required.

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Consistent movement is better than speed.


eddmario -- Uhh, I'm afraid to look this up.

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If you have horrible hiccups you can't get rid of, finger your butthole.
Seriously, look it up. There's a nerve that ends at the edge of your butthole that massaging can stop hiccups.


PMME_ur_lovely_boobs -- Alright then.

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If you are a female aspiring body-builder or have other uses for synthetic testosterone, be aware that your clitoris will grow in size and resemble a small penis. This is medically termed clitoromegaly.
Source: Am med student. Have seen clitoromegaly.


MaxDamage1 -- Cuz you stink. Don't forget it.

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Don't keep condoms in your wallet, but do keep unscented wet-wipes. Not the big ones, but the condom sized ones bbq joints pack with carryout orders. You never know when you may need to...
-Shine up the knob before a lass sees/smells,tastes it.
-wipe something off after the fact.
-clean a toilet seat before use.
-wash your asshole real quick because it's like wiping a marker and quite frankly, a little moisture would solve this faster than chapping my asshole with this dry ass paper.


p1nkp3pp3r -- Yes, great idea.

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Keep your naughty pictures secure (separate hard drive, VPN software if you're going to use open WiFi systems, don't just leave them floating around). Store them in different folders on your phone so you can open your SFW gallery whenever you want to show friends/family/coworkers your brand new lawnmower or whatever and they can keep scrolling without worrying about seeing your gibbleybits. If you're sharing intimate photos with people you are only casually dating, don't leave identifying features in them like your face, tatts, or jewelry.


peanut507 -- Don't want things getting stuck up in there.

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Do not put anything up your ass that doesn't have a flared base


MrNarwhal123 -- Slow 'n steady.

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Don't pull the anal beads out like you're starting a lawnmower

14 Foreplay Facts That Will Make You Think Before You Dink

14 Foreplay Facts That Will Make You Think Before You Dink

16 Tips, Tricks And Hacks That Will Make Your Life A Whole Lot Easier

16 Tips, Tricks And Hacks That Will Make Your Life A Whole Lot Easier -



1. When hanging something with two hooks, use painters tape to get exact markings, and a level on the wall. Hammer in your nails, and peel away the tape

2. After installing car registration sticker, score it with a razor blade to prevent thieves from stealing it



5. Instead of bringing multiple travel adapters on holiday just bring one travel adapter and a regular multi-power block that you can use to plug all your stuff into

6. When disassembling items, punch your screws thru some cardboard and label the sets. This will help you retain your hardware, remember placement and order of reassembly

7. How to store underwear or socks effectively and efficiently

8. Just mix 1 litre of boiling water and 2 tablespoons of Vicks Vapor Rub, stirring until combined. Freeze over night and put one in the bottom of your shower and they steam giving relief from clogged noses and ears

9. If you’re moving, you can use this method to easily transport all the clothes that you hang

10. Showering your dog while smearing peanut butter on a wall as a distraction

11. Buying ice cream? Press on the top of the container, if it’s solid it has been properly stored, if it depresses it has thawed and refrozen

12. I put a bubble level on my basic drill so I know when I’m 90 degrees perpendicular to ground when drilling vertically.

13. When adopting or purchasing an animal, ask yourself “Will this animal be with me, regardless of my financial, employment, housing or relationship changes?” If the answer is “No”, you are not a suitable owner

14. Threading a needle

15. How to test the age of an egg

16. Parallel Parking Hack


Put YOUR FACE On A Pumpkin

Put YOUR FACE On A Pumpkin


In today's video we're carving faces into a pumpkin that are so realistic it's like looking in an orange mirror!


12 Unethical Life Pro Tips That Are Actually Pretty Brilliant

12 Unethical Life Pro Tips That Are Actually Pretty Brilliant


Life pro tips come in all shapes and sizes, and now they apparently come in differing ethical varieties.

These ones are a bit shady, but hey, that doesn't make them any less clever.


17 Oral Sex Tips You'll Both Lose Your Mind Over

17 Oral Sex Tips You'll Both Lose Your Mind Over

Oral sex is the great equalizer. No matter who is going down on whom, the goal is to make it feel as good as possible. It's especially important for women, who are often more likely to orgasm from clitoral stimulation (like oral sex, duh, if that wasn't clear already). Here's how to make sure both of you are giving as good as you get.

1. Masturbating can help you figure out what you like.

Yes, a tongue is way different than a finger or a toy, but knowing what works for you when you're solo is at least a good place to start when explaining what you want your partner to do when they're thigh-deep and ready to go. Do you like constant pressure, or increasing pressure? How about speed and pace?

2. Get your whole body into it.

As recommended via podcast a podcast from the pros at Pleasure Mechanics, try stimulating (or asking for partner to stimulate) your whole body first, starting from your legs and working inward toward your clitoris.

3. Switch things up at the beginning.

As many guys get close to orgasm, they typically just want you to keep doing that one thing you're doing without stopping 'til they get there. A little boring, but whatever. However, at the beginning to build up anticipation you can try shaking up your routine. Think alternating longer ice-cream style licks with more traditional full-mouth-over-the-peen sucking.

4. If it's hard for you to focus on enjoying yourself, turn the lights off.

A shocking number of women have trouble mentally letting go and enjoying oral sex when their partner goes down on them. Sound like you? Try keeping the lights off so you're less likely to be distracted by your surroundings, and more likely to float off into ready-to-orgasm land.

5. You don't need a partner to enjoy oral-like sensations.

While very few things are going to recreate the feeling of a tongue exactly, some newer vibrators come pretty close. Options like the Womanizer, which utilizes suction, or the Ora 2, which has moving beads to mimic the motion of a tongue, are excellent substitutes. *Blissfully counts down the days until technology can replace men all together*.

6. Nope, you don't need to deep-throat.

If your partner is super into the idea of full-penis sensation, you can deliver that easily, without deep-throating. Try wrapping your hand around the bottom of his shaft, and taking the rest of him in your mouth. Or, place the tip of your tongue on the roof of your mouth. Then let his peen hit the underside of your tongue. No gagging necessary.

7. And since the subject came up, you don't need to swallow either.

When, where, and how your partner ejaculates during a blow job should be something both of you discuss and agree upon. You don't need to swallow literally ever, nor does your partner need to finish in your mouth at all! You might find it incredibly sexy to watch him finish elsewhere — on your body, on his body, there are tons of options.

8. Have him try sucking.

Ask him to switch up his moves and try sucking on your clitoris instead — it provides a more intense pressure. No *pressure* if this isn't for you, though! Some prefer a gentle flicking motion instead.

9. He doesn't need to ejaculate for a blow job to be enjoyable.

Many guys don't actually want going down to be the main event. According to a Cosmopoll, 54 percent of men like oral action as foreplay alone. So if it feels like a particular BJ has run its course, switch it up and try something else!

10. Lube can taste good.

If you're going to be down there, you might as well experiment with different flavors. Lube can add extra sensation to a blow job, and be enjoyable to you too. Lots of companies make flavored formulas that taste just slightly fruity or minty, not like candy-coated toxic waste. You can buy a sample pack at most sex toy shops.

11. Talk! Talk talk talk talk talk.

Communication is so basic, but so necessary. Neither one of you can read each other's mind during sex, so speak up if there's something that you want that he's not delivering. There are tons of ways to verbalize it if you feel a little tongue tied, like "It's so hot when you..." or "I'd love it if you'd try..."

12. Your hands can step up if your jaw feels tired.

You should never be doing anything in bed that feels uncomfortable, but if you're coming up against a bit of muscle fatigue, try  hand job techniques. At the same time, flick your tongue over the tip.

13. Just because he's going down on you doesn't mean he should ignore your other sensitive areas.

Being stimulated in multiple areas will help a woman reach climax more quickly. So while his tongue is at work, have him play with your nipples. In the beginning, he should softly stroke your nips, but as you get closer, he can squeeze if you're into that.

14. Cooling down can be very hot.

Your temperature rises slightly when you're aroused, so anything cool will be a pleasurable jolt to your senses. Point a fan in your direction so that while he's between your legs, you're feeling both warm from his mouth and a cool breeze. The combo is unexpected, and anything surprising can send you over the edge.

15. Go ahead, sit on his face.

If you're having trouble orgasming in a standard partner-in-between-your-legs position, switch it up and mount his face, being careful not to apply too much pressure. It allows him to access a totally new angle that might be just what you need to get there.

16. There's a digital version of oral.

Here's a unique way to give his frenulum—the tiny bump on the underside of his penis where the shaft meets the tip—some special attention: Place the tip of your finger on it, then take his shaft (along with your finger) into your mouth. As you move your mouth up and down, rub your finger over the F-spot.

17. Get cozy.

You 100 % do not need to be on your knees to give your partner oral sex. There are so many ways to go down that make it extra comfortable for you, like lying on your back while he kneels over you, or arranging pillows to make things softer.






10 Ways Hackers Get Your Passwords And What You Need To Do To Stop It

10 Ways Hackers Get Your Passwords And What You Need To Do To Stop It

Your passwords are stored in secure systems by using some special algorithms known as “hashing.” Hackers try to access these passwords using different techniques, the most popular one is called a “Dictionary attack,” where the computer tries over and over again. For example, in July of 2017, hackers obtained 1.5 terabytes of data from HBO computers and claimed to have released a script from a then-upcoming episode of Game of Thrones.

With time, hackers have been able to devise new tactics competing with modern security systems.

Chaostrophic shows you a few techniques that hackers use to access your passwords and and tips on how to protect yourself.

10. Unsecure Wi-Fi networks

Open Wi-Fi, or Wi-Fi that doesn’t require a password, is basically free access to all of your files. Every activity you do can be monitored by a hacker on the same Wi-Fi network.

If it becomes absolutely necessary to use Open Wi-Fi, like a public hotspot, use VPN (Virtual Private Network) to secure your Wi-Fi channel.

9. Weak encryption and lack of PIN for Wi-Fi router

Use only strong protocol WPA (Wi-Fi Protected Access) which is stronger than WEP (Wired Equivalent Privacy) and cannot be easily hacked by hacker.

This property will be changed on the router’s webpage. Also, hackers use WPS (Wi-Fi Protected Setup) vulnerability to hack Wi-Fi passwords even if you use WPA. So, it`s better to turn off the WPS method of authentication on your router’s web page.

8. Unsecure sites

Sites without the lock symbol are really suspicious and can be used to get information from your computer without your authorization using a MIM (man-in-the-middle) attack.

Also, if you`re dealing with sites where login details are required like bank sites, check for the green bar alongside green lock.

7. Unknown programs

Allowing programs that you`re unfamiliar with (malware) or whose names you haven’t heard of might seriously damage the security of your computer, and a hacker could easily extract your passwords.

If you’ve allowed something like this, you might want to delete that piece of software and run a thorough scan by your anti-virus software.

6. Your approval of account links to unknown sites

Linking Facebook or Twitter accounts to a suspicious site allows the site to gain your personal information which could be used against you.

Try not to link your account to whichever sites request it. Make sure you link it only when it’s an absolute necessity.

5. Revealing your mobile number for social media login

Hackers have found a flaw in Facebook and other social media networks to gain access to your account by using the “Forgot Your Password” function and diverting the messages from your mobile phone using a SS7 (Signalling system number 7) flaw in their system.

Don`t link your phone number with your social media networks. Instead use your username or email-address for login.

4. No Windows OS upgrade

Don`t use Windows XP, or an older version of Windows. They have a greater risk of getting hacked. The security updates for Windows XP and older versions have been terminated by Microsoft.

3. No Sandbox

If you want to be more secure while visiting scrupulous sites, simply use a software called “Sandbox.”

Sandboxing basically restricts the software in a protected environment allowing only the basic resources and restricting any additional permissions it needs access to, like for example, your computer files.

2. Suspicious email and attachments

Hackers use a SMTP (Simple Mail Transfer Protocol) header injection to insert malicious viruses, spam, and phishing websites onto a victim’s computer.

Don’t open mail that looks like spam and don’t open unknown attachments. Instead, first scan the file using anti-virus software and always check the header of the email.

1. Synchronized data

Hackers can attack cloud servers using various attacks, like a DDOS (Distributed Denial of Service) attack or a man-in-the-cloud attack, to access your data and passwords.

Always backup your data offline to an external storage device like a hard drive or a flash drive.

9 Everyday Habits You Need To Stop As Soon As Possible

9 Everyday Habits You Need To Stop As Soon As Possible

Do you look forward to a cup of hot and fragrant coffee every morning? Can you not watch a movie without munching on some buttery and salty popcorn? If your answer is yes, then you can be sure you’re not alone. There’s a common belief that it takes 21 days for a habit to form. But Philippa Lally and her colleagues at University College in London proved that an average of 66 days is necessary in order to turn an action into something that you do without having to think about it. And getting rid of a habit that’s already been formed could take much longer. But it’s definitely worth considering which of your habits are healthy and which may be harmful.

We at Chaostrophic found out about a few common habits which would be better left in the past. Don’t worry if you recognize some of the things mentioned below. Just remember — any bad habit can be replaced with a healthier one.

9. Don’t put your feet up on the dashboard.

Passengers like to sit however they’re most comfortable. In many movies, the coolest characters are often filmed sitting in the front seat of the car with their feet up on the dashboard.

The reality is that this position is very dangerous. Apart from this being a horrible position to be in during a car accident, there is also a lesser evil to be aware of — braking. Keeping your feet up at face level means that your face will hit your knees if the car suddenly brakes or stops. The collision of your jaw and your knees can lead to bone fractures and an extremely long and difficult recovery period.

This is why it’s better to forget this habit and to get comfortable sitting with your back up against the seat, your knees bent in front of you, and your seatbelt across your chest.

8. Don’t hang wet towels on hooks and don’t gather the shower curtain to one side.

It’s almost an involuntary movement to open up the shower curtain after a shower, dry off, and hang up your wet towel. Unfortunately, this is quite an unsanitary habit. Bacteria can easily expand in the wet creases of the towel and mold can grow in the folds of the gathered-up shower curtain.

This is why it’s better to let your wet towels dry unfolded and to stretch out your shower curtain until it dries.

7. Don’t drink coffee on an empty stomach.

Many of us start our day by going to the kitchen and making a cup of coffee before we get to anything else. This is a very common habit throughout the entire world. There’s only one problem — most of us drink a cup of coffee on an empty stomach. Despite the fact that coffee has its benefits, it does have some downsides, as well. One of them is that if you drink coffee on an empty stomach, it can cause heartburn and digestion problems.

When you are hungry and think about food, your stomach starts releasing gastric acid. When you drink coffee, it has the same effect on your stomach, except that solid food doesn’t follow. This leads to the release of too much gastric acid which can damage the stomach lining.

Specialists recommend drinking coffee only after eating breakfast or in the middle of the day.

6. Don’t eat popcorn.

Who doesn’t love a big bucket of salty and savory popcorn in front of the big screen? It’s a long-standing tradition to buy some soda and some popcorn and watch a movie. But it’s actually quite a harmful habit. The good news is, it’s not that difficult to quit.

Dentists say that popcorn can damage your teeth. Small particles of popcorn get stuck between your teeth and they’re very hard to get rid of, even with regular care. Another thing to consider is that movie theater popcorn is very high in fat. Try not ordering popcorn the next time you go to the movies and you may be surprised to notice that a movie without popcorn is just as enjoyable.

5. Don’t leave a bottle of water in the car.

If you’re a car owner, there is a very high probability that you keep a bottle of water inside your car. Whether you hold on to the water bottle for the sake of emergencies or just because you’re trying to increase your water intake, keep in mind that this is a rather dangerous habit — especially in the summer.

The problem is that the water in the bottle acts as a lens and if sunlight reaches it, especially if the bottle is on a dark surface, it can start a fire.

The possibility of the event that a bottle of water can cause a fire is pretty small, but it still exists. If you don’t want to be a rare case of fire caused by water, take your water bottle with you next time.

4. Don’t pop pimples.

Anyone who has ever had a breakout knows the rule: do not pop a pimple.

A pimple emerges when a pore is clogged with excess oil. That’s when the inflammation process begins. If a body is healthy, it sends white blood cells to fight harmful bacteria. That is why this part of the skin turns red. When you pop a pimple, the sides of the pore get damaged. As a result, it becomes even more susceptible to bacteria. Besides, when popping pimples, you risk getting the wound infected if your hands are dirty.

If you are worried about your skin condition, visit a dermatologist. If you almost never break out, use some special topical ointment to zap the zip away.

3. Don’t take photos of everything on your phone.

This piece of advice may sound quite strange now that we use our phones for almost everything we do — especially when it comes to taking photos. However, the results of the study of Linda Henkel from Fairfield University have ascertained that trying to capture everything on your camera will actually make you miss a lot of important details.

The problem is that when you take a photo, your attention is focused on the photo itself instead of what you are shooting. As a result, you will have a memorable photo or a video but the real impressions will be quite dull.

Two groups of people participated in the study. The first group just walked around the museum and examined the exhibits with their eyes while the other group just took photos. Eventually, the members of the second group were less effective when answering the questionnaire about the exhibition.

2. Don’t take vitamins with biologically active additives.

Many people think that vitamin C can keep them immune from catching a cold or that biologically active additives (BAAs) can fully replace a professional treatment plan. But if this was true, many medical practices would most likely be running out of business.

If you have a balanced diet, it’s pointless for you to also take vitamins since you already receive the necessary quantity of them from your food. Additional vitamins are recommended for people with vitamin deficiency.

Biologically active additives are used as a source of active substances if your body lacks them. Of course, it’s good that we restore the balance of lacking substances, but you should understand that BAAs are not medicine. Thus, they can’t treat your disease if you are sick.

1. Don’t put a charging phone under a pillow.

A charging phone under a pillow can result in a fire. The problem is that a charging phone can get hot. Despite the fact that newer cell phone models have improved, there are still smartphones with batteries that can significantly increase the overall temperature. This means that the device or the charger cord can catch fire. If the charging phone is under your pillow, you risk getting hurt.

Newton NH Fire Department warns everyone who cares for their safety to never put a charging phone under a pillow.






10 Of The Worst Sex Tips Ever From Women's Magazines

10 Of The Worst Sex Tips Ever From Women's Magazines

Women's magazines have told us to do really weird things in bed over the years. Here are some of the worst sex tips from women's magazines of past and present.

Women's magazines get a lot of flak for being a bit crazy at times. Though they often raise great points in terms of relationship and sex advice, the truth is that even the greatest magazines out there will occasionally slip up and come up with advice that is totally off-kilter, weird, or downright hilariously bad.

Bad sex advice is everywhere - and sometimes, even pros may get fooled. One can only imagine how bad some of the outcomes of this bad sex advice could have been with the poor people who tried these. For your own sake, you might want to avoid trying out the following sex tips - even if someone you know may have shared that advice via email or Facebook.

"Lick the soft spot in front of his ears."

Uh, wait. Guys have a soft spot in front of their ears? I thought that section was skull...or like, these chubby things people call cheeks? Could we have an anatomy lesson, here? I think someone forgot what a human head looks like.

Or, you know, maybe they forgot what species they were working for when they were writing this thing. It kind of sounds like a sex tip Liono from Thundercats would use.

"Take a tennis ball and roll it with slight pressure between his shoulders and over his butt to help him release pent-up sexual energy."

We're not kidding, people. This is a legitimate tip that was published in an old issue of Cosmopolitan. I don't know about you, but I don't really feel comfortable using tennis balls as part of sex.

Also, what kind of guy has pent up sex energy between his shoulders? At least, with the butt part, that makes sense.

"Firmly hold the bottom of his shaft in one hand and slowly push it towards the base. (Imagine you're pushing his penis into his body)."

If you literally are trying to push a man's penis into his body, you probably don't understand how sex is supposed to work. He's not a transformer robot. You can't make him turn into a girl, and if anything, this might just feel really uncomfortable.

This hilariously bad tip regularly gets called one of the worst sex tips from women's magazines as a whole. We can see why.

"Very softly bite the skin of his scrotum."

Photo by Nastia Cloutier-Ignatiev

This reader-submitted tip appeared in yet another issue of Cosmopolitan, and we have to at least point out that the magazine writers weren't the ones who came up with that idea. That being said, we'd be terrified if we felt teeth down there as men.

In terms of being able to get guys into the ER, this is one of the best sex tips out there. However, in terms of being able to get guys into the idea of sleeping with you, this is one of the worst sex tips ever suggested in history.

"Head to the local Indian restaurant or try a new recipe together - the spicier the better. Studies found that ginseng and saffron, in particular, are two spices proven to enhance bedroom performance."

This tip, which came right from SHAPE, has its heart in the right place. You should take care of your body and diet right in order to ensure that you can perform well in bed. Indian food also happens to be very healthy, so there's that, too.

However, going to an Indian restaurant probably isn't a good idea if you're trying to get laid. Indian food is incredibly filling, is easy to overindulge in, and trying to bounce up and down during sex may make certain things come back up.

We love the idea of bringing fitness and nutrition into the world of sex tips, but for the love of all that is holy, you might want to actually think about them being realistic.

"Bring your lover on your food shopping excursion. View it as sensual foreplay. You can have a lot of fun caressing and gently squeezing foods and inhaling their aromas. The conversation should be entertaining, too."

This gem appeared in SheKnows, and anyone who has ever taken their lover food shopping can tell you that it's really not that erotic. More often than not, it's scrambling to get all the items you need without forgetting things - just like every other food shopping trip you've ever taken.

That being said, if you can turn it into foreplay, I will be impressed with your skill. If you do decide to get pervy in the grocery store, you should probably expect to get stares. You might even end up having a kid nearby ask his mom what you're pretending to do to that zucchini.

Oh, and you may get banned from Trader Joe's. Isn't that sexy?

"Make two fists around my shaft and twist them in opposite directions as hard as you can."

This sex tip first appeared in Cosmopolitan, and since then it has gone viral - and for good reason. This really bad sex tip has been inspiring people to write about bad sex tips because it literally is telling you to give your partner an Indian Rug Burn on the most sensitive part of his body.

Many sexperts say that this might just be the worst sex tip in magazine history. In fact, it even sparked an entire article on Cracked about the sex tips published in magazines that would land you in the hospital.

That being said, if you do choose to use this sex tip, you will make your man scream. However, his screams will not be pleasurable; they will be telling you to get him an ambulance.

This only goes to show you that the worst tips from women's magazines often make for the best comedy.

"Making him a snack after sex. It doesn't have to be a gourmet meal – a simple grilled cheese or milk and cookies will do."

Glamour magazine was the one that penned this pearl, and to be fair, it would probably go over well with the guy. The only problem with this is that it's kind of a 1950s-ish tip that makes the girl basically act like a house servant to a guy, and that this tip was actually noted as a way to "lock him down."

The same article that spawned this bad sex tip also ended up being retracted, with the magazine's editors releasing the following apology and statement:

We understand that the list read like a 1950s marriage handbook – and nobody wants to go back there. That being said, we'll always be here to help you decode dating. So let's be clear: You're welcome to make a grilled cheese for anyone you love, but you shouldn't be whipping one up in an effort to lock the all-important 'him' down. (That's just a waste of Gruyere.)

What we want for you is love based on equality, not indentured servitude with date night. We're sorry for slipping off message. And speaking of slipping, please, please ignore that beer-right-out-of-the-shower thing. It feels like it could get dangerous fast."

You know things are pretty darned bad when the editors of a magazine actually have to step in to apologize for what they said.

"My girlfriend gets a glazed donut and sticks my penis through the hole. She nibbles around it, stopping to suck me every once in a while. The sugar beads from her mouth tingle on my tip."


This confession became Cosmopolitan's worst notorious sex tip, primarily because it just doesn't work, looks hilarious, and could also possibly cause yeast infections and UTIs - depending on the man's cleanliness.

Colloquially, it's known as "The Donut Trick," and it's spawned a huge number of articles mocking the magazine's sex tips section. Some have even used it to illustrate the insane disassociation that there seems to be between men and women.

Though some of Cosmopolitan's advice has been spot-on, the Donut Trick was not one of those sex tips that actually helps women rule the bedroom. It's only excellent when it comes to adding humor to sex. Besides, not all guys can actually fit in a donut hole, anyway.

"Pick up a box of drugstore hair color (the kind that eventually washes out) and go to town on each other. You'll get that sexy hands-on-the-scalp feeling along with the risky excitement of not knowing quite how it's going to turn out."

This gloriously awful sex tip was found in the pages of Women's Healthand man, it leaves us speechless.

Hair color and sex do not work out well. That "tingle" you feel dyeing each other's hair is actually your scalp burning. Moreover, getting frisky while dyeing your hair is a good way to dye your pristine white bathroom walls brown, blue, black, red, or pink.

Also, if you have ever seen the kind of sheer panic women tend to have when they're not sure how their hair will turn out, you already know that this isn't so much a sex tip as it is a form of psychological torture.

What's scary about this is that this is one of the worst sex tips from women's magazines. Like, they should know their demographic well enough to not suggest a form of torture on them. Really, Women's Health?

A Survivalist Teaches YOU How To Live Off The Grid

A Survivalist Teaches YOU How To Live Off The Grid

Take a few lessons from a real survival instructor. These tips and tricks may just save your life one day.

5 Mistakes Men Make In The Bedroom

5 Mistakes Men Make In The Bedroom

Most men like to believe they are a God in bed. From their epic oral skills to their grand love-making techniques, I have yet to encounter a man who doesn’t believe he’s the best in the sack. Now of course some dudes actually live up to their boasting and practice what they preach, but for the fellas who reside in an alternate universe and believe the “jackhammer” move is every girls fantasy or that a female orgasm is possible in two minutes, here is a dose of reality for you. If you are guilty of doing two or more things from the list below, you my friend are most likely crap in the sack. Luckily for you though, this assessment comes with some advice and there is no time like the present to learn and improve.

The "I climaxed so she must of climaxed" Assumer

Listen, most women do not get off from sex alone and if you have a girl who screams orgasm after every 5-minute performance, well then you have yourself a pretty little liar. I don’t know why women feel so much pressure to fake orgasms, but all men should know a few minutes of penetration rarely ever does it. Why some men believe, “Well I came, so she must of came too” is beyond me. I mean come on; a dude can fake fornicate with a lamppost and climax, so to assume that she reached orgasm in that short amount of time is just ridiculous. The answer to your problem here is foreplay and lots of it. If you’re a two-pump-chump that’s OK, just remember to take care of your partner before your short yet powerful performance.

The Big Game Talker

I literally just rolled my eyes as I wrote this. I swear some people can be so delusional when it comes to sex. To get a little personal, let me share one of my best whora-stories (get it, horror, whora, ha)! Many moons ago, after a few weeks of intense sexting with a guy from California, I was convinced by his elaborate descriptions of what he was going to do to me, that my night with him would easily be the best night of my sexual experience thus far. Finally, he made his way to NJ and the time to blow my mind had finally come, and blew my mind he did, with his nearly invisible boy parts and violent machine-gun reenactment that lasted all of 60 seconds. When it was over and I was finally able to breathe again, I looked at him with such confusion and anger. What happened to “giving me everything I want” and “begging for him to move to NJ”? The only thing I begged for was a red eye back to California and for my memory to be erased. My tip for you shit talkers is to keep your trap shut or be 100% sure that you can deliver what you promise.

The Anti-Reciprocator

Unless you can show me a doctor’s note that states you are allergic to vagina, then there is no excuse for not going down on your chick. I know some women pull the same card with blowjobs but much like the phrase, “be a man”, you need to man up and eat up. This can be your saving grace especially if you aren't packing in your pants or a well-aware minute man. Many women would choose a good oral sesh over actual sex any day of the week. If you are scared that you have no idea what to do down there, for Christ sake rent a porn, YouTube, or learn the effective and fool-proof method of tracing the ABC's.

The Unconfident Lover

If you’re the guy who is thinking about every move as you’re performing them, then you are most likely a boring bone who rarely strays from missionary. While there is nothing wrong with the classic man on top position, for your sake and hers you have got to switch it up. Get out of your head and stop worrying whether you’re doing it correctly because there is no such thing as right and wrong when it comes to sex. Of course, sex can be awkward especially when you don’t know your partner that well, but honestly, who gives a crap! Lead with passion and desire and not with the fear of embarrassing yourself. When all else fails, COMMUNICATE! Ask her what she likes, how she likes it, and if what you're doing feels good! Chicks love to talk! Once again, I can tell you from personal experience that a man who makes love with confidence and fervor makes up for all the uncomfortable moments in between.

The Non-Cuddler

We get it, some men do not like to cuddle, but if you want to impress a woman and keep her faithful and satisfied, then you have to give her a little after-sex attention. What the hell is the big deal anyway? I’m not suggesting you spoon naked for hours on end, trust me women don’t want to cuddle your flaccid wiener any longer than they have to. What I am saying is after the deed is done, touch her, kiss her, and indulge in some dirty verbiage describing how great she felt. It can be as simple as running your fingers through her hair or lightly scratching her back. I know this may sound needy but if she can spread her legs and allow you to smack her ass and pull her hair, the least you can do is show a little appreciation and give the girl a few minutes of attention.

Do You Know The Dangers Of Anal Sex?

Do You Know The Dangers Of Anal Sex?

Before you decide to poke the brown eye, you need to be schooled about the dangers of anal sex.

Anal sex has become incredibly popular over the years, and to a point, has become a 'sex status symbol' of sorts. Guys like to brag about being let in the out door, and rates of people trying out butt stuff have never been higher.

On one hand, this is actually pretty cool — and a positive indicator of our society's ability to be honest with itself about sexuality. Anal sex can give orgasms to people of all genders, thanks to our evolution of having nerve endings back there.

However, as good as anal sex can be, it also has a bad side. In fact, anal sex is considered to be one of the most dangerous sex acts you can do by medical professionals. It's important to discuss the dangers of anal sex so that you know how to do it safely the first time around.

First, let's talk about disease transmission.

Disease is a major cause for concern with any anal play, and some of the most worrisome dangers of anal sex involves disease transmission. There are two general areas of concern when it comes to the disease side of anal sex.

Analingus, when done on an unwashed anus, means that you're putting your tongue on fecal remains. This in turn can cause you to contract a disease. E.coli, herpes, certain forms of hepatitis, and other diseases can end up in your system this way.

Moreover, microtears in your rectum caused by anal sex can also make catching and transmitting STDs easier. This is why people who have anal sex tend to have higher rates of HIV transmission.

If you want to avoid the disease dangers of anal sex, keep your butt clean, use a condom, and use plenty of lube for penetration.

In more extreme cases, aggressive anal sex can cause a fistula.

One of the lesser-known dangers of anal sex is the possibility of developing a fistula. If your partner is very large and very rough, a tear can happen that causes your bowel to develop a hole inside it.

This is called a fistula, and yes, it is potentially lethal. Fistulas often cause feces to get passed into other areas of your body. If feces ends up in your blood stream, you can go into septic shock. However, getting to that point is pretty rare.

As far as the dangers of anal sex goes, this is one of those that is unlikely to happen — but still possible. Most of the time, fistulas are very uncomfortable. They do require surgery to fix, though.

The easiest way to avoid a fistula is to go slow, and to listen to your body. If you notice that your backside is hurting, stop having anal sex. It takes a while to relax into it, and not listening to yourself can end up with ugly consequences.

It may also cause a little bit weaker rectal muscles.

Some studies have shown that people who receive anal sex are more likely to have a hard time holding feces in — and may also feel a greater sense of urgency when it comes to the bathroom. However, the studies show that this is usually a subtle change.

Though that may sound pretty terrifying, you shouldn't be worried. The same studies showed that the vast majority of people who regularly have anal sex do not have issues controlling their bowels. In other words, your butt will be fine.

Lastly, you probably don't have to worry about prolapsing, but you might have to worry about hemorrhoids getting worse.

Anal prolapses happen when your insides fall out of your outside, and a common urban legend about anal sex is that too rough a partner can have this happen to you. Believe it or not, anal prolapse is extremely unlikely to happen due to anal sex.

Though it is possible that anal sex can cause prolapse, the small number of people who report prolapses suggests that it takes a lot to actually cause this during a roll in the hay. Overall, it probably isn't reasonable to assume that it might happen to you.

However, there has been solid evidence that you could get worse hemorrhoids if you have anal sex. This makes sense, considering that hemorrhoids are inflamed nerves around the rectum. Rubbing something that's inflamed will make it more inflamed.

In Conclusion...

Knowing how to prevent the dangers of anal sex is crucial to actually being able to enjoy it. And, while it might be risky, the right preparation can make it a ton of fun.

5 Survival Tips That'll Save Your Life One Day

5 Survival Tips That'll Save Your Life One Day


Do you remember all the tips and tricks you were taught as a child? You were probably told – and lied to, if we’re honest about it – carrots would help you see in the dark and eating the crusts of bread would help your hair get curly. While that might have seemed pretty cool when you were young, there was a whole lot more we were taught that kept us safe.

Anyone whose seen The Lovely Bones – and if you haven’t you need to – will know ‘stranger danger’ really is a thing.

Now we’ve grown up a little, we probably should take a look back at some of the things we were taught that keep us safe, as well as updating a few to ‘adult-ify’ them.


13 Life Pro Tips That Actually Changed Peoples Lives

13 Life Pro Tips That Actually Changed Peoples Lives

A lot of life pro tips are silly & can be passed off as jokes, but this handful of tips genuinely changed the way these people lived their lives. They might be worth writing down. No seriously, get off your lazy ass and write these down. Life pro tip #1.

1. Mynxs -- You don't wanna miss an important meeting cuz you gotta turd.

Take a poop before anything important so you don't need to poop during something important

2. my_Favorite_post -- Offices like this are so great, but so evil at the same time.

"Do I actually want this, or am I being impulsive since it is in front of me?"

I've lost a bunch of weight this year, and this has helped a lot with willpower. My office has donuts, candy and free food all over the place. I have to stop and think "Did I actually want a cookie, or do I just want it because I saw it?"

Sometimes the answer is that I want a cookie. But usually it is just because I saw it and grabbed it before I could practice willpower.

3. iPeeLavaLampGoo -- Petrified egg paste is a nightmare.

A little bit of effort now saves a lot of effort later. Immediately rinse out your scrambled eggs pan to save yourself from having to scrub the petrified egg paste later. If you've got a few items of clothing laying on the floor, pick them up. It stops the slow descent into a full on mess that will take a few hours to properly clean up. Double and triple check to make sure you are writing down addresses, phone numbers, instructions, or something pertaining to work correctly. An extra ten seconds at most will save you a ton of stress and heartache later.

4. zazzlekdazzle -- Very good comparison.

Staying in a relationship where the person just isn't all that into it is actually way worse than being single and keeps you from finding better people to be with. It's like living with a lazy vampire who only musters the effort to drain your energies slowly in little nibbles.

5. pmurthy20 -- Best tip here.

Embarrassing memory? Just add Seinfeld music overtop

6. Pigeon_Asshole -- Yeah, mustering the energy to do extra things in the morning is way harder.

Sorting my packed lunch out the night before. If I don't, theres no way im bringing lunch to work.

7. flooshtollen -- Very true.

When you eat past the point you enjoy it nobody wins

8. Star_amazon -- Well, you tried.

I was walking through the mall with a friend and he was self conscious about what he was wearing. I said 'did you see that lady that just walked by?' And he said yeah and I asked him what color her shirt was and he couldn't tell me. I said 'cause you don't care. So what makes you think she cares about what you're wearing?'

Didn't make him any more comfortable, but whatever.

9. Anytimeisteatime -- Ooh, I like this one.

Pretend to be a spy.

This is a really stupid one, but totally works for me.

I always feel nervous going to parties/big social events where I don't know many people- probably most people do. Then I started deciding I would just go and pretend I was the sort of person who doesn't get nervous going to parties where they don't know anyone. For some reason, for me, that person is epitomised by James Bond. He must go to loads of parties where he doesn't know anyone, after all. So now when I start dreading that moment walking into the room, not knowing anyone, awkward small talk, etc, I just decide I'll pretend I'm James Bond and then it will be fine.

For some reason, it really helps. I still have to make awkward small talk and stuff, but hanging around on my own people-watching for a bit feels more comfortable when I'm in this headspace and I chat to people more confidently, which makes conversations happen more, which minimises nervous not-sure-what-to-do time.

Important note: only pretend to be a spy in your head; do not actually act like a spy. That may make things more weird and awkward rather than less.

10. mherman39 -- Noted.

Strengthening your stomach muscles and core is the best way to heal a bad back.

11. ibthefudge -- Also start going to the gym and on hikes.

Wear compression shorts when you go to the gym or for a hike.

Help prevent swamp ass and wedgies.

12. 20draws10 -- That's...actually a good one.

If you're having trouble making a decision, flip a coin. If your disappointed with the result then you have your answer.

I know it sounds stupid but try it one day. As someone who's about as indecisive as they come this has been a life changer.

13. RileyW2k -- Or get a toaster oven. Those things work magic on old pizza.

Pro Tip: When re-heating Pizza in the microwave, put a small glass of water on the plate with it. Tastes normal! Completely changed my life


34 Little-Known Genius Duct Tape Hacks

34 Little-Known Genius Duct Tape Hacks

Duct tape is one of those miracle products that can do and fix pretty much everything (except for the gaping hole in your heart), but most of us use it sparingly and only know how to make a duct tape wallet. The reality is that almost anything can be remedied with a little silver tape. If you've ever seen The Red Green Show, you're probably pretty familiar with the crazy, somewhat ridiculous projects duct tape is used in.

These aim to be a bit more helpful. Whether you're stuck in the forest with nothing but a knife and a roll of tape or you're at home just struggling with everyday life, you're in luck.

Check out these amazing uses for the most underrated hardware tool of all.

1. Use it to open tough jars.

2. Add grip to slippery shoes.

Apply a layer of duct tape and score with scissors to make your shoes a little safer.

3. Create custom stencils for DIY shirts!

Instructables | craft within reach

4. Remove warts by covering them with duct tape.

carl.myhill | Instructables

5. Plug up a hole 'til you can get to the garage!

6. Use duct tape to maintain your seat position.

If someone else moves the seat, that's ok! Just slide it back until the pieces line up.

7. Craft a duct tape canoe.

Sure, it's a lot of work, but they actually float!

It really works!

Instructables | ineverfinishanyth

8. Pick up stubborn pet hair with duct tape and a paint roller.

9. Construct a homemade sled!

10. Put together a pair of waterproof emergency shoes!

saxophones | Instructables

11. Make a custom dress form on the cheap!

12. Take care of a broken bone in an emergency.

This isn't a long-term solution, but it works in a pinch!

cloudifornia | Instructables

13. Put together a stretcher in an emergency.

cloudifornia | Instructables

14. Or a hammock for less stressful situations.

Dadzilla | Instructables

15. Put up a temporary clothesline.

16. Use it to make a watertight cup!

17. Use it to patch a leaky tent and save your vacation!

18. Create a custom messenger bag in any colors or patterns you can get your hands on.

19. Or make waterproof faux-quilted pillows for the patio!

Instructables | annahowardshaw

20. DIY a butterfly bandage.

Cut small strips and space them out along the wound to keep it closed, then see a doctor ASAP.

21. Make a pouch for your charging station!

22. Protect blisters.

Just put some gauze on first!

23. Tag Your Luggage.

Never lose your luggage in a sea of bags and suitcases on the carousel again with this trick! Add a noticeable tag to your handle using brightly-colored duct tape.

24. While the rest of us were trying to figure out the style, color, and fabric we wanted for our prom dresses, these teens were calculating how many duct tape rolls they needed.

25. Some people got very original in their designs.

26. While others coordinated just perfectly.

27. With Halloween just around the corner, duct tape can come in handy.

Just check out this Boba Fett Helmet, for example.

Imgur | CabooseFett

28. You can also put your artistic skills to the test.

There's something wonderfully appropriate about the duct tape Walter White.

Reddit | 1armedfreak

29. If you're short on seating, duct tape will always come to the rescue.

Reddit | Padauk

30. Sun protection is important, and duct tape has your back.

31. Duct tape lunch bags are the way of the future.

How cool are these? Dollar stores tend to carry a wide variety of colored and patterned rolls of duct tape, so you could easily whip up an amazing collection of lunch bags for everyone in your family.

32. How cute is this Ziploc pencil case?

Duct tape and plastic freezer bags actually make super durable pencil cases that anyone can use.

33. Seal And Store Caulking.

Prevent caulking products from drying up and going to waste by using duct tape to seal and hang them.

34. Duct tape is also a very solid investment because it can be used in situations when you can't afford a replacement.

How To Prep For Anal Sex

How To Prep For Anal Sex

Anal sex — the final frontier. Though it's been a sexual practice for years, it's actually one of the most taboo sex acts left to broach in the heterosexual society. Part of the stigma, of course, is things going in the out door.

When you don't prepare for anal, you will end up risking a number of things. You may end up with a mess involving feces, or you may even cause a physical injury to yourself or your partner.

In order to avoid the nasty side of anal sex, you will need to know how to prep for anal sex properly. Here's how to do it and how to minimize the chances of something gross happening.

If you're new to anal sex, you will need to learn how to prep for anal sex's more physical side.

A lot of men are very well endowed, and that can mean anal tearing if you aren't used to it. Many people prefer to train their back doors before they do it with a guy, just so that they can get used to the sensation, learn what they enjoy, and get a better feeling of what anal sex can offer.

For this, you might want to get a small, thinner anal toy that can stimulate your back door. Use it for a while, then slowly graduate up to a larger sized dildo or plug. This will help you learn to relax your muscles enough to take your partner in the first time around.

Not knowing how to relax your anus will likely lead to tearing or injury — especially if the "giver" is very large down there.


Clean your booty up.

Anal sex can be pretty unsanitary if you aren't cleaned back there. A good bath will clean up the exterior of your booty enough for anal sex to be bacteria free — at least on the outside. Your body's insides have infection-fighting bacteria that help keep things safe when you're playing back there.

If you want to do it on camera, or if you're really worried about a "fudgey" surprise, you may want to do a couple of water enemas before you go at it. Water enema cleanses are actually cited as a good idea by Joanna Angel, a porn star who is known for her sexy anal scenes.

Also, if you are worried about disease transmission, we strongly suggest using a condom.


Don't eat food that causes diarrhea before you have anal sex.

Part of learning how to prep for anal sex is learning which foods you should avoid before a night involving butt stuff. Simply put, foods that are natural diuretics are not a good idea unless you want something to come out of you during the act.

So, if you want to have anal sex, do not eat curry or go to Taco Bell. That's just asking for a bad time. For some people, even drinking something like wine or coffee can be enough to cause bad things to happen — so know your body before you do this.


Prep the area you're having sex in.

Lube is a necessary part of anal sex unless you want anal tearing to happen. Without a lot of lubrication, anal sex becomes painful for both partners. A lack of lube has also been linked to HIV and herpes transmission via anal sex thanks to fissures in skin tissue.

So, in any good guide on how to prep for anal sex, they will tell you to make sure that you have a towel underneath you, and lots of lube ready to use. We suggest splurging on expensive lube since it tends to stay slicker for a longer period of time.

(Note: You also will need to lubricate the inside of your booty for really good anal, so you might as well prep *those* surroundings at this time, too.)


Having vaginal sex or getting an orgasm in beforehand also seems to help people relax back there too.

If you need more help relaxing, lots of foreplay (or even a first orgasm) can help you fit your partner in your back door. It also makes for amazing foreplay — and really can help you get in a marathon sex session.

It's important to note that you should never have vaginal sex after anal sex. This can cause infections, as well as serious cleanliness problems for lady parts.


Lastly, you may need to be prepared to poop a bit differently than you used to.

Yes, I know, it's not exactly the sexiest advice I can give, but your butt is not gonna function the same way after your first time having anal sex. You may be gassy and constipated for a while, and pooping will be harder.

Part of learning how to prep for anal sex is understanding the aftermath of it — and then prepping for the potential having a gassy day. This is actually one of the most common reasons why people stop being interested in anal after round one.

However, it does get easier the more you do it and many would agree that hot anal sessions are totally worth trouble pooping once in a while. All in all, though, it's up to you to make that call.



Redditors Share Best Exit Strategies For Boring Conversations - Take Notes

Redditors Share Best Exit Strategies For Boring Conversations - Take Notes

We've all been there: you're at a party and you've been cornered by someone you absolutely don't want to talk to. Maybe they're suffering from halitosis and the smell is killing you. Perhaps they don't know how to shut up, and are unable to pick up your obviously disinterested social cues. No matter the details, we've all been socially cornered and itching for a smooth escape plan. So, when the Reddit user AmberBrooks35 posted a prompt question about this very dynamic, the thread immediately exploded with answers.

Her prompt read:

"You're at a party and find yourself stuck in a conversation with someone you don't especially want to talk to about something you'd really rather not be talking about. What's your best quick escape line or move?"

Unsurprisingly, Reddit had a lot of creative exit strategies for boring conversations.

This one is basically choreographed slapstick.

Some tactics danced on the line of threatening your conversation partner.

If this doesn't do the job, I don't know what to tell you.

The thread included some tried and true methods.

This sentence is best pulled off in another language.

While others elaborated on the classic bathroom break move.

Honestly, this would probably start a whole new conversation.

There were absurd trolling answers.

Although this feels emotionally apt.

As well as some high drama.

Blood is always a good party trick.

One Reddit user went in-depth on the "Midwestern Escape" which essentially weaponizes politeness to escape a conversation.

Getting a party sidekick is always a foolproof move.

One commenter used diabetes as an excuse.

I mean, if they actually have it then it's valid.


Arguably the best escape plan went full meta.

This one deserves a clap.

The next time you find yourself cornered at a party, just remember, this thread is here for you with plenty of hot escape tips.

That dog is all of us.


10 Red Flags To Help You Sniff Out Douchebags

10 Red Flags To Help You Sniff Out Douchebags

There are behaviors that are annoying, and then there are behaviors that are unforgivible.  The good people at AskReddit asked its users to share some of the unforgivable ones. Have a look at 10 of our favorite redflags below.

Common Mistakes Beginner Chefs Make In The Kitchen

Common Mistakes Beginner Chefs Make In The Kitchen


 A few tips and tricks that can elevate your abilities in the kitchen.


Are You Bad In Bed? 5 Signs You Suck In The Sack

Are You Bad In Bed? 5 Signs You Suck In The Sack

No matter how many times you’ve gotten laid—or how confident you are in bed—there’s always that little niggling doubt: Do I actually suck between the sheets?

“Men are driven by performance,” says Linda Banner, Ph.D., author of Advanced Sexual Techniques. “They measure their manhood by how many times they can make a woman orgasm—how good a lover they are.”

In some cases, guys eschew that anxiety by focusing entirely on their own pleasure, while others become overly, almost obsessively, attentive.

Neither is a turn-on.

“Egocentric guys end up leaving women hanging,” says Yvonne Fulbright, Ph.D., author of The Better Sex Guide to Extraordinary Lovemaking. “And the whole ‘I’m not worthy to be with you’ thing is almost like The 40-Year-Old Virgin.”

These two sexual attitudes can actually look pretty similar in the sack. Here are five signs your performance anxiety is backfiring—and what to do about it.


You may genuinely care about her climax, but your partner probably only hears your ego talking—or assumes you’re unsure of your skills.

“You’re trying to validate yourself that you’re doing a good job,” says Banner. “These questions—Can’t you come? When are you going to come?—guarantee it won’t happen.”

Why? Because your girlfriend feels like she has to hit her peak in order to satisfy you. That makes it tough to focus on her own pleasure—and her climax requires concentration. A lot of it.

Do this instead: Focus on the pleasure you both are experiencing now, rather than fretting over whether she’s close to the finish line.

“Say things like, ‘You feel so good’ or ‘I love this part of your body,’” says Banner.

It’s okay to check in with her—but leave her orgasm out of it. Simply ask, “Does that feel good?” or “Do you like it this way?” Same outcome, but without the anxiety.


This is one case where your pleasure might be uncomfortable for her. Every woman’s gag reflex is different—and your partner knows her limits, which means she’ll take you deeper on her own if she can.

“So many women can’t stand this,” says Fulbright. “It can feel like a sign of disrespect—that you’re drawing into your own sexual response, instead of seeing this as a shared experience.”

Do this instead: It’s okay to cup her head while she pleasures you—that can be sweet and make her feel less alone down there. But if you want a little Linda Lovelace-style action, you need to make a verbal request, as in, “Are you able to take me deeper?”

Then at some point, touch her gently beneath the chin to prompt her to make eye contact, suggests Fulbright. That helps reassures her that this is, in fact, about connection—not just you getting off.


Throw out a quick apology after a 30-second session, but don’t make a habit out of saying you’re sorry if you lasted 7 minutes, instead of, say, 15.

“It’s okay to apologize on occasion, especially if she’s been left hanging,” says Fulbright. “But if it’s a regular part of processing sex, then it becomes lame.”

Read: Your groveling may turn her off more than your shorter-than-average duration.

Do this instead: Keep the sex play going.

“Your orgasm doesn’t mean the action is over,” says Fulbright.

Shift your focus from your “failure” to her orgasm, and she’ll quickly forget that you didn’t break your P.R.

Allowing for this kind of flexibility may actually enhance your sex life: “People end up being sexually intimate more often—and in different ways—when they don’t feel like it has to last for a certain amount of time, every time,” says Fulbright. “It’s more about sexual connection and enjoying each other.”


The thinking: If she likes this, then she’ll really like this. Wrong.

“If she’s saying, ‘It feels so good,’ just stay where you are—that’s not the time to change things up,” says Banner.

You may think a crazy new move will help her race to climax, when really, it’s just going to delay it.

Do this instead: Don’t move until she gives you the signal, which could be verbal (“I’m too sensitive”) or physical (she moves your hand). Otherwise, stay put. Simple enough, right?


It feels awesome to you, but if your partner isn’t sufficiently lubed up, it’s the sexual equivalent of a brush burn.

In other words, skipping straight to machine-gun thrusting is, at best, not very pleasurable—and at worst, totally painful to her.

“The Jackrabbit indicates a lack of self-confidence,” says Fulbright. “It rushes the experience—it’s often the guys who’ve trained their bodies through masturbation to get off quickly, so they’re nervous about being with a real human being.”

Do this instead: Save your speed for the home stretch, when you’re just seconds from orgasm, or for quickies, when your partner is wet from the get-go.

“Sometimes the occasion calls for the Jackrabbit—you’re hot and heavy, and the second you get behind a closed door, you go for it,” says Fulbright. “But it’s not pleasurable on a regular basis.”



Four Clever Ways To Peel Garlic With Ease

Four Clever Ways To Peel Garlic With Ease


 Say goodbye to the days of sticky hands and infomercial-style frustration.


15 Life Hacks That Will Make Your Stupid Body Work Better

15 Life Hacks That Will Make Your Stupid Body Work Better



5 Steamy Shower Sex Positions That Actually Work

5 Steamy Shower Sex Positions That Actually Work

Shower sex in the movies is always so damn steamy, even down to the artfully placed steam. But for the rest of us, sadly without a well-paid Swedish art director to decorate our sex lives in a soapy haze, shower sex IRL can be kinda awkward and sucky. Body parts don't line up right, someone's getting all the nice warm water while the other freezes, and it's slippery in all the wrong parts (floor, walls, etc...) and not in the right parts (water, oddly, is a horrible lube, so you will need lube. And not just any kind, a freakin' silicone based lube. Which, of course, you didn't think ahead to bring.)

There are also all kinds of tedious safety considerations: No one must slip, all toys must be 1 billion percent water safe, etc. And yet, shower sex is, like, some sort of life requirement. Since you will likely be doing it, you need to know how to do it well. Here's how to emerge from that shower clean, unhurt, and glowing.

1.The Bent-Over Bather

Sometimes simplicity is best when it comes to shower boning. Make sure your feet are completely non-slippery (If you're a safety-first kind of lady, buy one of those ugly-ass non-slip mats your grandma has), then bend over at the waist, spread your legs as needed, and hang onto to something sturdy. He enters you from behind in a standing doggie, holding you steady with his hands on your hips. Very primal feeling. Hot.

2.The Super Soaker

Sometimes trying to hold a weird position, or random fears of water waste during a drought, can get in the way of you actually having an orgasm. Put a handheld showerhead into service (hey, man, I told you last week to get one) directing the stream between your legs as he enters you standing. The water won't work the same magic on his bits as it does on yours (Viva womanhood!) but he so won't be complaining.


3.Rub-a-Dub-Dub Dude

Sometimes we get stuck on the idea that sex = P in V only, which, bullshit! Mutual masturbation is great at all times (way less chance of pregnancy or diseases, way more chance of getting the kind of stimulation you need) and shower MM offers the additional perks of body-safe soap as lube (it works in this case, if he keeps his fingers on the outside of you). Plus, easy rinsing away of the evidence. Try a variation with him standing behind you, either stroking himself while you attend to yourself, or stroking you while he slides his penis between your soapy butt cheeks, like a titty fuck, but with butt.

4.Wet 'n' Wild

Have him sit on the bottom of the tub, legs straight in front of him. Low water level is fine here — eco-friendly! Slide on top of him, and holding onto his shoulders or the side of the tub for leverage. And here's some secret female wisdom: a pair of soaped-up boobs makes everything better.

5.Liquid Love

The tub or shower is an ahh-mazing place for oral. The water and general air of cleanliness helps some people feel more relaxed about mouths on mysterious nether regions. Take turns sitting on the edge of the tub (built-in shower seat works too) and having the other give you some wet, watery love. If you have neither ledge nor edge, take turns kneeling before the other (mmm, subservient!). (Tip: aim the showerhead far away from your face — you want a mouth full of something else, not water.)


How To Eat Out A Vagina LIKE A PRO

How To Eat Out A Vagina LIKE A PRO


 The instructions were unclear my penis is now stuck in my toaster, I'm suing.




Top 10 Common Errors Made In Cooking

Top 10 Common Errors Made In Cooking

As most readers will know, I love cooking. I am a fanatic when it comes to doing things “perfectly” in the kitchen and have, consequently, read everything I can get my hands on about cooking. I am an amateur, but at least I am a reasonably well informed amateur! This list is a guide to help save you from some of the most common cooking errors we all make.


Pan too Cold

When you cook in a pan which is not hot enough, things stick and they don’t color. This is a very common mistake made when cooking steak or other meat dishes in a frying pan. Don’t be afraid to turn the heat right up – you can always remove the pan from the heat if it looks to be too hot. Make sure you use a little oil to the pan before you begin to heat it (don’t use a non-stick pan – throw all the non-stick cookware in to the bin).


Fish Overcooked

Overcooked fish is one of the most revolting things you can eat. It lacks flavor, and it lacks moisture. When you cook fish properly, it should retain some of the transparency that you get with raw fish. Don’t fear that it will be raw – the heat can still penetrate to the core without overcooking it. As a side note, when buying fresh fish, make sure the fish eyes are shiny and clear and that the gills are still red. Fresh fish should also have no odor (apart from the smell of the sea) – if it smells fishy, don’t buy it.


Too Much Interference

When you cook a steak, you must put it in the pan and not touch it again until it is time to turn it over. Moving meat around a pan stops it from browning. Coupled with a cold pan (item 10) you will end up with limp, soggy, and uncolored meat. You should not fall to the temptation to give things a shove or to check for the level of cooking. Cook based on time (for example one minute either side for steak) and leave it alone!



When frying on top of the stove, people tend to try to do everything at once – putting half a dozen sausages in the pan, or 2 or 3 steaks. This only ruins the food – overcrowding the pan causes food to boil (as there is not enough room for the steam to leave the pan) instead of browning. Cook in batches and, if you need to, keep meat in a warmed oven while you continue through the batches.


Overcooking Meat

Most people who have little cooking experience will be familiar with the large cut of meat that has shrivelled up like a prune during cooking. The reason for this is that when you heat meat beyond a certain temperature, the meat proteins begin to contract – forcing the juices (and flavor!) out of the meat. The solution to this is to make sure that when you roast meat, you do it on a low heat for a long time. The great chef Heston Blumenthal (owner of The Fat Duck) cooks his meat at a maximum of 75C (~170F) for many hours – resulting in succulent and flavorful cuts. I strongly recommend you check out his cook books – “Family Food” is a particularly good one and it includes a section on meat cooking in this manner. I am fortunate enough to own a signed copy! You can get it here at Amazon


Not Enough Salt

All too frequently people use too little salt in their cooking (or worse still: no salt at all!) Salt is essential in cooking as it provides flavor and in some cases texture. You should salt all meat before you cook it, and most of the time you should salt water before cooking vegetables in it. It is not enough to add salt at the last minute as some foods cook better with salt adding during the cooking process. I should also mention here than you should immediately throw away any table salt you own and buy proper sea salt (or kosher salt). Table salt contains flowing agents and anti-caking agents. It contains so much of this stuff that if you sniff a container of table salt – it smells like metal. Good quality salt should have no smell or a very slight perfume (from the sea).


Blunt Knives


Blunt knives are not only bad in the kitchen because they tear at what you are cutting, but they are extremely dangerous. Most accidents involving knives in the kitchen are caused by blunt knives. The reason for this is that the knife is more prone to slipping. I personally prefer Japanese steel in my knives but there are also some excellent quality European knives as well. For those with the big budget I strongly recommend Hattori knives (go for the HD or KD series – they will cost upwards of $300 a knife). The knife pictured above is a 27cm Hattori KD Chef’s Knife ($1,175).


Using Dried Herbs

Dried herbs have no place in the kitchen. They have little (if any) of the flavor of the herb they are meant to represent. If you cook with dried herbs, you cook with no flavor. The first time you use fresh herbs in your cooking, you will immediately understand the importance of them. This also goes for vegetables – always buy the freshest vegetables you can (preferably locally grown – buying locally grown means you only get what is in season, and therefore you get the best tasting veges).


Using Cheap Kitchenware

I am sure we are all well acquainted with pots and pans that are as light as a feather and coated with a non-stick coating. Throw. These. Out. Now. You simply can not get the right feel for heat with these abominable tin pots. A proper cooking pot should have a very heavy base. They need not be cast iron, but they should certainly require a little elbow grease to lift. If you have the wallet large enough – you should aim for copper pots as they provide the best conductivity of heat.


Using Cheap Wine

Wine is undoubtedly my favorite thing in the world – I quaff copious amounts of the stuff (in order to improve my palate of course). One of the big “sins” in the kitchen is using “cooking” wine. There is no such thing as special wine for cooking – it is cheap and nasty wine with a dishonest label on it! The golden rule with wine in the kitchen is that you must only use wine you would happily drink. The upside to this golden rule is that you invariably end up with a lot of spare wine for drinking. Be sure not to keep your “good” wine in the pantry when you are done – drink it and buy a fresh bottle next time you need it.


5 Rusty Trombone Sex Positions That Will Change EVERYTHING

5 Rusty Trombone Sex Positions That Will Change EVERYTHING

If you don't know what a Rusty Trombone is, sit down: There's something very important I need to tell you. A Rusty Trombone is analingus (yep, butt-tongue stuff), with a simultaneous hand job around front.

To make this a good thing and not the exact opposite:
—Wash. Make sure your partner has had one hell of a good pre-scrub.
—Discuss first. Surprise anal anything is never the good kind of surprise.
—Do not (even if you really, really want to) make a trombone sound.

Here, five variations on the beloved Rusty Trombone.

1​ The Classic Trombone Solo

Have your partner stand with his legs slightly spread while you kneel behind him. Give him some slow, exploratory licks, circle your tongue around his butt hole, and press a flat tongue over his perineum (the area between balls and anus) to see what makes him groan the most. Reach around with a lubed-up hand for a simultaneous HJ and 8 million bonus points.

2.The Two-Handed Tongue Twister

If you want to go a little deeper, play the trombone with him on his stomach. He elevates his butt for you by getting on his knees while you straddle his back, facing his feet. Lube up a finger and slide it inside him, curving it so it's stimulating his prostate (a spongy raised area about 2 inches in on the upper wall). With the other arm, work your hand around his shaft. This is a good position if you're not into accidental semen in your eye, because the double stroking will make him orgasm like a fire hose.

3.The Clean and Jerk


He kneels down like he's on the receiving end of doggy-style sex. Make him hold on to his ass cheeks and spread 'em for you if you're feeling bossy. Face to bum (yes, again), give him long strokes on his peen at the same time. If you're in bitch goddess mode, throw in a few firm swats to the ass.

4.The Snorkel

If you're going all in with your tongue, you're gonna want be in control of when, how much, and how deep. Have him lie on his back with his knees bent, propping his hips up on a couple pillows. Place your tongue on his butt, with your hand stroking his penis. If everyone's feeling it, it's OK to point your tongue and slide it into his butt. Also perfectly not OK too.


5.Rusty Trumpet

Yes, this is a real thing — also known as "you getting yours." To redeem, go ahead and sit on his face facing his knees. (Hold yourself up a little so you don't, like, suffocate him.) While he attends to your bum, have him make a C shape with his free hand. With his thumb stroking inside your vagina, a few fingers can get to work on the outside too. The RT truly has something for everyone.


20 Food Hacks To Make You A Jedi In The Kitchen

20+ Food Hacks To Make You A Jedi In The Kitchen

It’s time to stop wasting energy, effort, and food. The old-fashioned ways of doing things don’t always cut it when you’re baking, cooking, or just plain trying to eat! These 20+ tips step up your game in the kitchen, so you can basically be a Jedi cook.

Why Do We Cook So Many Foods At 350 Degrees?

Why Do We Cook So Many Foods At 350 Degrees?

The machines of modern meal-making are tools of considerable precision. This is the age of bluetooth-enabled meat thermometers and smartphone-powered toaster ovens, devices that reflect the idea that food-making is more science than art.

This isn’t new. The latest kitchen machinery merely builds on a longstanding obsession with culinary exactness—a fixation that’s long been shaped by emerging technologies. Microwaves count down by the second. Ovens automatically preheat to 350 degrees with the press of a button.

Or, they seem to, anyway.

In fact, different ovens set to the same temperature can vary by as much as 90 degrees, according to an investigation by Cook’s Illustrated magazine. And even when an oven says it’s at 350 degrees, the temperature can shift up and down quite a bit—dipping to 300, rising to 400—as something’s cooking. (Plus, some ovens simply wear out over time.)

So how did 350 degrees become the sweet spot—in so many recipes, and as an oven preset—in the first place?

The magic of cooking at 350 degrees isn’t magic at all, but chemistry. It is, for example, the level associated with the Maillard Reaction, the chemical process that gives so many foods a complex flavor profile—and an appealing golden-brown hue—when sugar and protein are heated together just so.

“Without Maillard chemistry we would not have a dark bread crust or golden brown turkey,” wrote the authors of a Royal Society of Chemistry book about the reaction, “our cakes and pastries would be pale and anemic, and we would lose the distinctive color of French onion soup.” The Maillard Reaction—which actually entails a series of reactions—isn’t all toasty goodness, however. It’s also responsible for making apples turn brown, which many people find unappetizing “despite negligible effect on flavor,” the authors write.

Louis Camille Maillard, the chemist for whom the reaction is named, didn’t set out to do culinary research when he first described the browning effect in 1912. But his name is still evoked frequently among chefs, nutritionists, scientists, and others interested in how proteins and sugars together unlock tasty new molecules in a variety of foods right around 350 degrees. (There’s some debate about the exact temperature; some put it closer to 335 degrees.)

Maillard aside, 350 is simply a moderate temperature—another reason it works well for many recipes. It’s hot enough to cook things fairly quickly but no so hot that your dish burns.

An ad for the Lone Star Gas Company, 1958 (Brownwood Bulletin / Newspapers.com)

But many chefs aren’t fixated on any one temperature, and instead think of their craft in terms of ranges: “Really low, under 275 degrees; moderate, between 275 and 350; high, over 350 but under, say 425; and maximum,” the cookbook author Mark Bittman once told Slate. It wasn’t until the 20th century that recipes routinely included precise temperatures—even in the 1950s, it was common to see terms like “slow oven” and “moderate oven” in place of any number. The very concept of cooking at a constant and precise temperature is technologically driven, an extension of a device that seemed miraculous at the time it was introduced: The regulator.

“The regulator makes scientific cooking possible to the most unscientific woman, and few realize how many perfect recipes are spoiled by wrong handling of the oven heat,” The New York Tribune wrote in a 1919 piece about the the Clark Jewel Gas Range. “[E]ven if the housewife does not know that a slow oven is about 250 to 300 degrees, a moderate oven 350, a hot oven 400 to 450, and very hot 450 to 475, the little wheel of the regulator tells her these facts in words as well as in figures and she can translate any recipe that calls for a moderate or slow or hot oven accordingly.”

The Clark Jewel Gas Range, pictured in 1919. (New York Tribune)

The device was located on the oven, and usually involved a wheel or pointer you could turn to the temperature of your choice. This was connected to a thermometer-and-valve contraption that would expand as the oven got hotter, and prevent the temperature from going up when the upper limit was reached. Today, the ability to set a constant temperature seems so inherent to the concept of how an oven works—it’s just what ovens do. But when regulators were new, they were a marvel of automation.

“This is a simple device which means freedom from oven watching,” the Lansing State Journal wrote in 1932. “They permit hours of leisure away from the kitchen that could not otherwise be managed.”

Well, maybe. The complicated history of domestic technologies shows us that all that leisure time may not have actually materialized—the relationship between time and technology isn’t so straightforward. (See also: the Crock-pot and the vacuum cleaner.)

The Clark Jewel Gas Range regulator, 1919. (New York Tribune)

In the decades that followed, temperature regulators became standardized—and their displays eventually digitized. These days, most ovens preheat with the touch of a button rather than the turn of a wheel or dial. But even the first rudimentary devices were an improvement upon old-school methods when cooks had to develop their own inventive ways of testing an oven’s heat. “For instance, when baking bread they sometimes throw a piece of white paper in the over, and if it turns brown the oven is at the proper temperature,” the Indiana Weekly Messenger reported in 1903. “Or, when baking other things, they will throw a little cornmeal or flour into the oven in order to test the heat.”

The best temperature gauge in those days was far more primitive—yet still allowed for “marvelous accuracy,” the newspaper wrote. “You take a man who is an expert in the business, and he can tell what the temperature of the oven is by simply touching the handle of the oven door. In nine cases out of ten he will not miss it the fraction of a degree.”

That’s an awfully precise statistic to put forth for an unverified skill, yet the larger point stands: The human hand was a different kind of instrument for the bakers of generations past. Their modern counterparts may have lost this ability somewhere along the line. But even in an era that prizes precision, amid the computerized ovens and internet-connected kitchens, a fraction of a degree hardly matters.




18 People Share Their Best NSFW Life Protips

18 People Share Their Best NSFW Life Protips


The sooner we all learn these things, the better.


If You're Gonna Send a Dick Pic, At Least Do It Right

If You're Gonna Send a Dick Pic, At Least Do It Right


Take it from an expert: Your dick pic could be a little (lot) better. Shan Boody is that expert. Boody is a clinical sexologist, author, and YouTube star.

According to Boody, there are two dick pics every man should master: a serious one, and one purely for laughs. She also urges guys to carefully pick the right time in the relationship to send one, and to know their audience. And, this goes without saying, a solicited dick pic is always appreciated. An unsolicited dick pic, less so.

Here, Boody can explain—and demonstrate—best:

A Definitive Ranking of Every Way to Have Sex

A Definitive Ranking of Every Way to Have Sex


Ah, sex. It's right there at the base of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, alongside food and air. We think about it every seven seconds, and then we go to sleep and dream about it continuously. It is, as George Michael affirms, natural and fun. (Best when it's one on one is open to debate, as I think even George would now concede.) As Esquire's leading sex expert (or, for short, "fuckpert"), I have been asked to analyze and rank all the different kinds of sex you might come across in your travels through life. Read and debate with a loved one, or someone who is less than 250 feet away from you on the hookup app of your choosing.

11. Mile High Club Sex

What It Is: Sex on an airplane. Specifically—and this is the best-case scenario—inside the cramped, filthy lavatory.

Advantages: Will make you appreciate having sex literally anywhere else.

Drawbacks: Like the girlfriend who lives in Canada or any number of sex tricks teenage boys talk about, the Mile High Club is not a real thing.

10. Breakup Sex

What It Is: You and your significant other cannot go on this way, but just one more time before you drive off in the U-Haul…

Advantages: Can provide closure, tears are socially acceptable, you can be reasonably sure this is the last time you'll hear those weird noises they make.

Drawbacks: Can't help but feel like a chore, like closing up the cabin for winter—or like an exit interview.

9. Hate Sex

What It Is: There is that person in your life you cannot stand, but to whom you are inexplicably attracted, and then one night you slip right over that thin line that separates love and hate.

Advantages: Intense! Dramatic! You cannot help but feel like Sam or Diane from Cheers!

Drawbacks: Happens almost exclusively on television, is precisely the reaction Milo Yiannopoulos and Stacey Dash are trying to get out of us.

8. Hookup App Sex

What It Is: Tinder, Bumble, Grindr, Scruff, and probably 20 new ones I'm too old to know about. You select a picture, you judge others based on theirs, you text and you flirt, and then sometimes you end up in a stranger's apartment.

Advantages: It's kind of like an adult version of Pokémon Go!

Drawbacks: You might end up catching a different, much less appealing team of pocket monsters.

7. Three-Way Sex

What It Is: You, your significant other, and an adventurous college friend/rando from the bar/that co-worker about whom you're a little concerned have a few drinks, listen to some Prince, one thing leads to another, and then come the high-fives.

Advantages: Makes an average person feel like a pornography star. (There has to be a shorter, more efficient way to say "pornography star.") In a three-way, one is never not thinking, "I cannot believe this is happening."

Drawbacks: Difficult logistics, high potential for hurt feelings, strong possibility you will be permanently overshadowed by your special guest star (or: "Urkel'd"). In a three-way, one also thinks, at least once, "I can't wait for this to be over so I can masturbate thinking about it."

6. Fuck Buddy Sex

What It Is: You and a platonic friend discover that you're sexually compatible, equally down for some no-strings shoopin', or just have complimentary problems with emotional intimacy.

Advantages: Efficient, business-like, nobody has to buy anybody dinner.

Drawbacks: But then one of you develops unreciprocated feelings for the other one, and there you are in the middle of a romantic comedy, except it's real life, so it involves much less Sara Bareilles music and much more quiet, seething resentment.

5. Hotel Bar Sex

What It Is: You're on a business trip in an unfamiliar city, you're by yourself or with coworkers with whom you'd rather not socialize, you swing by the lobby bar for a decompression cocktail, you bring a book and read the same paragraph over and over until you make eye contact with someone who's doing the exact same thing. This leads to small talk over Yellow Tail Shiraz, which leads to flirting, which leads to raiding the minibar "intimacy kit" in whoever's room is cleaner.

Advantages: There is an inherent role-playing involved here. You're in Cincinnati. You can be anyone you want to be in Cincinnati. You just have to stay on your toes and remember the name and occupation you've given yourself. (Brock, military contractor.)

Drawbacks: Potential awkwardness around the continental breakfast.

4. Morning After Sex

What It Is: You and a loved one are slowly coming to, and you really should start getting ready for work, but you're already in bed, your partner is wearing—at most—an old t-shirt of yours, and your boss won't notice if you show up twenty minutes late.

Advantages: The pressure is low, and you're too groggy to be self-conscious about how you look or smell.

Drawbacks: At some point, you will have to acknowledge that you both need to brush your teeth if this thing is going to go any further.

3. Middle of the Night Sex

What It Is: You and your boo wake up in the middle of the night smooching, and you have no idea who started it or when.

Advantages: Feels like— and may in fact be the result of— a really hot dream.

Drawbacks: Will you even remember it in the morning?

2. Parents' House Sex

What It Is: You're visiting your hometown with a significant other, and in the middle of the night, they leave the guest bedroom and sneak into yours. Or you just take a five-minute break in the middle of Thanksgiving dinner. There are a lot of ways to play this one. Whichever you choose, you have to be very quiet, because your folks are in the next room.

Advantages: Forbidden, hot, generally involves a familiar old quilt. Plus, nothing creates intimacy like a shared secret.

Drawbacks: Cannot help but make you consider all the times you were the person in the next room, and your parents had to be very quiet. Gross.

1. Makeup Sex

What It Is: You and your significant other had a huge fight, emotions are raw, feelings are hurt, but you both hold on to the slender reed of hope that there is value in your relationship, and you choose to put in the work to fix it. But first, strenuous fucking.

Advantages: Probably the most passionate of the sexes. Sometimes worth instigating a fight for.

Drawbacks: Somewhere during this cycle, you might say something you don't mean, like "I can't stand your family," or "I have always thought I could do better than you," or "Will you marry me?"


50 Sex & Intimacy Tips For Men And Women

50 Sex & Intimacy Tips For Men And Women


Regardless of whether you are in a relationship or just dating at the moment these tips are something to implement into your sex-life.

Many of us forget about the little things that we loved about each other when we first met & we become complacent within our relationships.

This is not something to be taken lightly and nurturing the love between you & your partner should be a top priority on a daily basis regardless of how long you have been together.

Taking each other for granted is one of the top reasons for the divorce statistics today.

You chose each other for a reason - don’t forget why. Keep things fresh & alive by continually adding exciting new memories within your relationship. You wouldn’t stop loving & nurturing your children, so put in the same energy with loving your partner.

Women love romance and if a man knows how to be romantic, he will be able to sensuously lure his lady into the bedroom without persistence. Men love regular sex so this is a win/win situation!

50 Sex Tips & Intimate Suggestions to Keep Your Relationship Strong:

1. Both sexes need to keep sex fresh and alive. Don’t be predictable!

2. Men like women who are willing to explore new things between the sheets & who initiate sex as well.

3. Women like massage/candles/soft words and a man who caresses them. (They do not like to be to be groped or men who are constantly aggressive.)

4. Men love lingerie and a woman who enjoys wearing it. They also like sexual surprises when out for the evening. Many men find it very sexy when he knows what his lady is wearing or “not” wearing under her outfit.

5. Booze-less sex is better than a drunken session. The senses are more alive when sober! (And you actually remember you had sex!)

6. Daytime sex is the best scenario for both genders. Sex after 10pm can become a quick expected routine & not always as arousing because everyone is tired from their busy day.

7. A little naughty talk in the bedroom is alluring for both sexes!

8. Send phone sex messages during the work day. (If you call them at the office ensure they are alone & the speaker phone is off!)

9. Always listen to what your partner says they like during sex.

10. Don’t ignore men’s nipples.

11. Pick up on their desires in & out of the bedroom & use it to your advantage.

12. The smallest romantic gestures will increase your odds of better sex or at least "getting it" once in a while. Head nods towards the bedroom are not considered foreplay.

13. Try new positions. Don’t become a “vanilla sex” creature of habit in the bedroom.

14. Wear cologne or body cream lightly & do not forget the deodorant! You may not think you need it but trust me you do!

15. Learn how to read each other’s emotions & feelings so you know when they are in the mood for love or at least how you can help get them in the mood.

16. Be aware of their body language. Know when something is not right.

17. Light Candles. Hold hands when you are sitting beside them on the couch or across the dinner table and talk with them about things they are interested in. Show them you really care about their life.

18. When you both get home from work take time to unwind quietly for half an hour. No one is ready for a deep conversation. (Or sit together and chat lightly about other things that aren’t stressful.)

19. Men; after your orgasm sex is NOT over! (Sorry I really did have to say this.)

20. Scream out during sex once in awhile let the neighbors know you are not that boring couple after all.

21. Sex is not just penetration or a flip-a-thon! A few positions are always great but you don't always have to show your athleticism.

22. Don’t ask someone if they would like to have sex! Be creative and lure them sensuously into the bedroom.

23. Shave! That goes for both sexes; do a little landscaping. Not everyone wants to venture into the forest.

24. Sexting is great foreplay!

25. Compliment your partner & make them feel good about themselves which gives them confidence that you find them attractive. Body image is very important, especially for women.

Human hands showing thumbs up sign

26. Don’t wear flannel pajamas, curlers or eye shades to bed or around the house for the matter.

27. Shave her legs or paint her toenails once in awhile - wax his unibrow or give him a foot massage.

28. Wash his/her hair or other pampering things Mom used to do.

29. Dress sexy for them, even at home.

30. Dental hygiene; floss, whiten and keep your breath fresh! Yellow teeth are a huge turn off and get worse with age, be preventative before it happens.

31. Get rid of granny panties & big boy baggy whities!

32. Tell each other what you like & want in bed. Guide each other with your hands. Don’t just lie there like a starfish.

33. Men love women who actually enjoy giving oral sex and who don’t just do it on their partner's birthday because it is expected. The same goes with oral sex for women. (It makes us more comfortable & relaxed when our man enjoys it. Don’t forget to eat a little pineapple!)

34. Think ahead romantically for special occasions. It's not just Hallmark dates that count.

35. Sexual confidence is a "turn on" for both sexes!

36. Take your time during sex; don’t be in a rush for the finish line or happy ending!

37. Find their erogenous zones and work them, especially if you want your partner to get in the mood before your bedroom liaison.

38. Don’t assume that one orgasm is all they are good for. (That goes for men too, ladies.)

39. Have sex outside the bedroom.

40. Make-out on the couch, elevator or in the car like a teenager, especially if you have been together for a while.

41. Tell them often that you love them & want them. Don’t assume they know.

42. Be respectful of each other’s time. Late for a date probably means you won’t get laid that night!

43. Valentine’s Day is a reminder of “romance for dummies” so make other days special for no reason other than you care about them.

44. Don’t be afraid to be a romantic mush-ball occasionally. Let down your conservative guard and really show your soft emotional side. It makes the other person feel special when you show a little vulnerability.

45. Have a naughty “pet name” for them in the privacy of your bedroom and don't be afraid to bring out your best porn star qualities once in awhile.

46. Read or watch something sexy together to spice things up if you feel like your sex life is becoming repetitive.

47. Take turns planning weekly date nights. Be creative! It also keeps you focused on your partner during the time you are prepping for your special night.

48. Never be too busy for your partner! Take their calls, text them throughout the day, make their favorite meal, bring home little gifts once in awhile and always remember dates on the calendar that are important to them.

49. Kiss them deeply every single day, hug them constantly and always get up to greet each other when they come home. Constantly connecting with your partner through “touch” will always keep you close as a couple.

50. Take sexy vacations or mini holidays to refresh your sexual desires for one another. Getting away from the daily routine at home puts you into a different space where you can relax. Make sure there is a double bathtub or hot tub in the hotel where you can share a glass of wine & candlelight together.

Love is like a full time job and the relationships that last for many years are the ones that were nurtured and prioritized above all other life expectations.

The grass is seldom greener on the other side so don’t walk away from a salvageable situation because you didn’t make every effort possible to be a loving partner.

Never forget how to love them or why you fell for them in the beginning. Cherish every moment together and never become complacent.

It really only takes a few minutes a day to remind your partner why you love them.

9 Tips That Will Make Sex Amazing For Anyone With A Penis

9 Tips That Will Make Sex Amazing For Anyone With A Penis


Penises: Anyone who has one knows how temperamental they can be.

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They’ll be your best friend one night — ready to go for as long as you need them — and then let you down the next night, as if you did something unforgivable to them.

If you’re confused by that, chances are you’re not alone. The relationship between penises and the bodies they’re attached to is complex; what arouses one penis might not arouse the next one, and sometimes nothing will work in the moment.

But just because penises can be a little confusing doesn’t mean you have to go into full-on panic mode trying to figure out what works.

In fact, worrying about your penis working properly could make it even harder to get aroused.

It doesn’t have to go down that way, though. Here, you’ll find some tips that’ll hopefully make sex more pleasurable for you and your penis — whether you’re dealing with an uncooperative one or just want to learn an extra trick or two.


1. First, remember that communication is super important.

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Hate to break it to ya, but you can’t just expect your penis to be ready to go whenever the moment arises; it often works best when you’re just as psychologically stimulated as you are physically stimulated. And a good way to get there is by talking to your partner, Dr. Paul Gittens, director of the Philadelphia Center for Sexual Medicine.

There are a lot of ways to talk about what feels good without making it sound like a tutorial, sex therapist Ian Kerner, PhD, author of She Comes First. You could start by telling your partner if something hurts “or if you want stimulation in a different way — faster, slower, harder, stronger,” says Kerner.

Or if you’re at a loss for words, just try commenting on what you’re feeling or seeing and how it turns you on. This way you’re explaining what you like as they’re doing it, instead of telling them what you wish they were doing. “As long as it’s punctuated with positive feedback when your partner is getting it right,” Kerner says, “it should be all good.”


2. Take your time with foreplay.

Just because the penis is hard doesn’t mean that it’s fully stimulated and ready for sex, Gittens says. There’s this misconception out there that penis-havers don’t need foreplay as much as vagina-havers. Not true. So before going straight for penetrative sex, slooow down. Maybe masturbate a little, talk dirty, start with oral or manual stimulation, or do whatever else turns you on.

Giving yourself more time to warm up will mean more blood flow to the penis and more time to get your other head in the game. “You really want to get that interconnection around the experience, so that it’s not just a hand, a mouth, and a penis involved — it’s two people that are involved,” says Kerner.


3. Simultaneously apply friction to the head of the penis and pressure to the shaft and base.

Obviously the penis hot spots will vary from person to person, but both experts agreed that the frenulum — where the underside of the head meets the shaft — is one of the most sensitive areas of the penis, thanks to a bunch of nerve endings that live there. So feel free to go to town on this area. “It responds well to friction, whether that’s with your hands, or licking or sucking or nibbling,” Kerner says.

Meanwhile, the shaft of the penis typically responds more to pressure as you get toward the base. “So if you’re focused on manual stimulation, use one hand to provide pressure at the base of the penis on the shaft, and continue to provide friction at the head of the penis,” says Kerner.

“Good penile stimulation is a combination of different degrees of friction and pressure,” he says. Good to know.


4. Don’t assume that your penis is your only erogenous zone.


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Sure, the penis may be the epicenter of arousal. But you’ll create more of a total-body experience — not to mention psychological stimulation — by finding other parts of the body that are sensitive.

And they do exist. For starters: the testicles and the perineum (which we’ll get into later on). Beyond that, he suggests connecting “north with south” by touching the stomach, pinching the nipples, or bringing your partner’s hands anywhere else you want them to touch (your neck, mouth, ears, whatever).

Discovering all these other places that bring you pleasure will be fun for both parties, Gittens says. “For the receiver, it’s going to make them feel good, and for the person who’s initiating the response, it also gives them a sense of sexual arousal because they’ll see that they’re turning on their partner.”


5. Try some external stimuli.


Yes, there are sex toys and lubes specifically for penises. And yes, you might want to try them. You could try wearing a cock ring, which will provide an extra layer of pressure to the penis base, or even look for one that vibrates a bit. There’s also warming or cooling lubes and all sorts of sex gadgets made just for you.

Or you can try playing with temperatures (like rubbing ice across the stomach or dripping hot wax) or things like whips or paddles. Just make sure that both you and your partner are comfortable with whatever you decide to do, Gittens says, because “once one person starts to force something, that’s when it’s not fun anymore.”


6. And, hey, maybe even some internal stimulation.

Here’s something to consider before you’re like, “nope.” The prostate, a walnut-sized gland that lives below the bladder and in front of the rectum, can be stimulated both internally and externally, Kerner says.

So maybe start by stimulating the perineum — the area of skin in front of the prostate, located between the scrotum and anus. It’s packed with sensitive nerve endings, which you can stimulate by tapping, pushing, or licking it. This will activate the pleasure sensitivity in the prostate as well as the anus area, Kerner says. Feel free to work your way up from there, maybe eventually getting comfortable enough to go inside. Once you’ve made that commitment to full-on prostate glory, he says to “insert your finger an inch or two inside and you’ll feel it, then stimulate through light movement — usually a come-hither movement toward the navel.”

Don’t forget that any time you’re dealing with anal penetration, you have to be careful. Your hands should be clean, your nails trimmed — so that you don’t go in there tearing up the place — and there should be plenty of lube nearby to help you along the way. To play it extra safe, you might even want to consider toys that are specially designed for anal stimulation. (You can read more about butt stuff for men here.)

“This definitely adds a lot of sensation,” Kerner says, but if you’re still not convinced then that’s perfectly fine. “Many men just aren’t into prostate stimulation and don’t want to feel pressured.”


7. Try some ball playing — just go easy on ‘em.


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Just like everything else down there, the testicles and scrotum can be a good target for sexual stimulation thanks to all the sensitive nerve endings that live there. Having the scrotal skin massaged, lightly pinched, or pulled, and the testicles sucked, licked, or gently fondled is probably best, Kerner says. Just remember that this is a super, super sensitive area on the body, so applying too much pressure might hurt more than anything else.

8. Bring the penis close to ejaculation, then pause.

Also known as edging or the start-and-stop method, this trick is especially good for people who have issues with premature ejaculation, Gittens says, but really anyone can try it.

Basically, you want to get as close to coming without actually going off that cliff, Kerner says. Being aware of when you’re in this zone — so maybe you feel a contraction or see some pre-cum — and then hovering there or pulling back is key, he says.


9. Rub your penis on things instead of just sticking it in things.

Penises don’t only have to go into holes; they can be used to touch other body parts too, Kerner says. So, for example, if you’re having p-in-v sex, you can pull out and rub your shaft on your partner’s clitoris or vaginal lips. You can also rub it on your partner’s stomach, chest, butt, whatever (as long as you’re both into it and it feels good).

“There are a lot of ways to stimulate the penis without it being intercourse, and lots of ways to cool down a little bit if you need to,” he says, adding that you can also do this while edging.


And remember, don’t freak out if your penis isn’t cooperating. Everyone has their off days.

Penises are like the stock market, Kerner says. “They fluctuate according to a wide range of factors and it’s natural for there to be some unpredictability and volatility.” So don’t get sucked into negative thinking when things don’t go your way. Consider both your body and the environment in these instances, reflect, and if you can change anything then do so — otherwise, DON’T WORRY ABOUT IT, he says. “Penises are also resilient, so keep showing up.”

On the other hand, if you start to notice that your issue is becoming less situational and more of an every-time-I-try-to-have-sex kind of thing, then he says it might be time to talk to a doctor.

OK, now have fun out there!

Women Reveal What Men Are Doing Wrong On Dating Sites – So Stop Doing These Things

Women Reveal What Men Are Doing Wrong On Dating Sites – So Stop Doing These Things

For guys, there’s a ton of competition on dating sites when trying to meet chicks. But how can you enhance your chances? Well, the ladies have chimed in with some valuable input on how to do better on dating sites.

In a recent Ask Reddit, this question was pondered, “Women on dating websites: What are men doing wrong?” Turns out a lot. Women had a plethora of advice and critiques of guys on dating sites. Couldn’t hurt to see what the opposite sex is saying and maybe make some subtle changes to your approach and/or profile.

eggrolt: Old photos on their profile. I was talking to this guy about and being catfished I said (as a joke), “…your photos aren’t from 2014 or something right?”. And he admitted that his photos were old and that he doesn’t look like that anymore.

MissyJ22: Immediately telling us they’re horny. Soooooo BORING

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eatmelikeacannibal: Shirtless bathroom mirror selfie as profile photo.

ilovecorbin: This is kinda shallow but if you have a shirtless picture on your profile then I am completely turned off.

cullercoats: Not reading the information I have on my profile.

Amjo87: They don’t ask a question back after answering one. Not all guys but some. I usually just write them off as being social inept if I’m the one doing the asking all the time.

FuckCargoShorts: Assuming that us not responding to your message within half an hour means we’re not interested. We’re literally drowning in replies/messages and sometimes it takes awhile to sift through the garbage to find the ones we want to reply to.

pinkshdw666: Shirtless pics/ pics that just barely cover your dick. Group pics. I’m not trying to guess who you are. Only having one picture or thousands. Profile pictures with you drinking or groping some girl.

dove99: Using the snapchat dog filter. To be honest most of my friends have a 90% match rate so sifting through messages is hard. Maybe try to stand out? Some guy messaged me the other day saying “Hey you dropped something” I had to reply and say what, he said “your standards” so maybe get someones attention in a funny way?

qtbabyy: Messages saying how “perfect” they think I am and asking for marriage. Like uh no you don’t know anything about me. Saying things like “I’ll spoil you” etc, being extremely sexual right away. Saying “hi” then after they get a response they respond with ” Ima fuck you so hard til you scream.”

kemahaney: Saying nice guy – nice guy is wicked passive aggressive. It is like you have to convince yourself of that but the reality is you can be a dick. Sending dick pics – seriously don’t want to see it. Asking for pics of my tits.

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SlanginPie: Sup
Wanna come over
Not knowing how to carry on a conversation
Referring to women as crazy in the first message
Pictures from their wedding as their profile picture (seriously)
Poor Grammar
headless, shirtless mirror shots
Not paying attention to any of the things in my profile (for example, I specifically state not 420 friendly in my profile – literally had someone message me whos “tagline” was Weed Is Life
Calling me Hun or Babe or Sweetheart or any other term of endearment before knowing me
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venomoth91: Asking me to “Netflix and Chill” or something similar for our first meetup. I get that Tinder is supposedly a hookup app, but I gotta make sure you’re not a serial killer first before I let you into my place or go to yours.

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Not being honest with your intentions. It’s perfectly fine if you only want to hookup or don’t want a relationship, but tell me that ASAP. Don’t take me out on a nice romantic date and then get upset that I didn’t want to have sex with you at the end. You’re the one who lied, not me.

Assuming I’m not interested if I don’t respond quickly. I work a ton and I’m often away from my phone when I’m busy. I’m not “ignoring you” but I will start to if you accuse me of it. The exception to this rule is if we’re having a conversation regarding plans to hang out in person later that day. If I know we’ve already scheduled something, I’ll try my best to respond quickly.
Asking me to send nudes. Just no. Go watch porn.

Bragging about your “big” dick. I’ve seen a lot of different dicks throughout my lifetime and they’ve all looked mostly the same. Your dick is not that special unless the guy attached to it is. Besides, if I like a guy enough to date him, I’m going to appreciate whatever he has down there simply because it’s his. Size really doesn’t matter.

Telling me not to wear heels on our first date because you’re afraid of me becoming taller than you (I list my height in my profile as a warning because I’m aware that a lot of guys don’t like tall women). If you’re that offended by a pair of shoes, I’m cancelling our first date and probably blocking you. Plus I don’t give AF if you’re shorter.

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Saying you’d like to cook or buy me dinner because I’m “too skinny.” Why are you wasting your time talking to me if you don’t like my body? I love my healthy, athletic (and naturally skinny) body the way it is and I’m not gonna change it to fit some guy’s preferences.


17 NSFW Male Lifehacks That'll Improve Your Day-to-Day Dudeliness

17 NSFW Male Lifehacks That'll Improve Your Day-to-Day Dudeliness

Here are some dudely dude tips for all you hardcore dudes out there.

8 Foods You Shouldn’t Reheat In A Microwave

8 Foods You Shouldn’t Reheat In A Microwave

No matter how tasty and healthy your freshly prepared meal is, it can lose its health benefits and even cause food poisoning if you reheat it in a microwave.

Here is a list of foods that you should eat as soon as they’re cooked.


Celery is a great ingredient for soup but only until the moment a plate of it is in a microwave. Celery contains nitrates that turn into toxic nitrites and carcinogenic nitrosamines after reheating.

Try cooking celery cream soup — it’ll be tasty even when it’s cold.




We really doubt that you reheat your scrambled eggs or omelet, but we’d like to warn you anyway: after reheating, eggs become toxic.

It’s better to add them to your sandwich or salad. Then you won’t have to reheat them or throw them away.




Many people who follow a healthy diet love spinach because it contains lots of vitamins and minerals. But, just like celery, spinach is full of nitrates that become nitrites and nitrosamines after reheating.

Add spinach to smoothies, sandwiches, or salads and get the maximum benefits without any harm.




Mushrooms are very tricky: despite the high content of protein, vitamins, and amino acids, they are not digested well most of the time. And if you reheat your leftover risotto, the problem will get even worse: the protein composition of mushrooms changes, and this causes stomachache and stomach bloating.

If you don’t want to get rid of your leftover mushroom dish, put it in the fridge and eat it the next day after reheating your meal to no more than 158°F (70°C). But the best use for your leftover mushrooms is making a pasta sauce with them or adding them to a salad.




Quite unexpectedly, potatoes turned out to be on the blacklist too. Reheated potatoes lose their taste and health benefits and can even become a cause of botulism if they’re stored in foil at room temperature.

It’s better to eat mashed potato and French fries immediately. If you have leftover boiled potatoes, you should add them to your salad.




When reheating chicken dishes, the protein composition changes, and this can lead to problems with digestion.

Therefore, it’s better to add your leftover chicken to a salad or sandwich.




Beetroot still has its health benefits even in a soup. But it’s not recommended to reheat it as beetroot is also full of nitrates.

Fresh beetroot is the healthiest. You can use it in a smoothie or salad.




Rice is rich in vitamins, minerals, and amino acids, but it also contains spores of bacteria that survive even after cooking. If rice is left at room temperature after it’s prepared, bacteria will multiply, and this can cause food poisoning. Reheating doesn’t solve the problem, so it’s better to eat rice immediately or refrigerate it within an hour of cooking and keep it there until the next day.

7 Secrets For Making An Irresistible “Dating Profile Headline”

7 Secrets For Making An Irresistible “Dating Profile Headline”

Writing an online dating profile comes with easy and hard steps. Easy might include filling out your height, while hard might include coming up with a good dating profile headline. Does “Do you like pina coladas?” cut it anymore?

Don’t have a dating profile yet? Match.com has a quick sign-up process that makes creating a profile really easy.

Here we go into some successful online dating profile techniques, backed by science, to help carve out a headline that will lead to more clicks and more dates!

7. Be Funny

This may seem obvious, but a recent study posted on eHarmony, which analyzed 12,000 online dating profiles, confirmed that both men and women chose “funny” as a characteristic they are looking for in a partner, ranking it sixth out of a list of 10 enticing words.

If you can be funny, it’s universally acknowledged as a good idea. Stumped on how to be funny? Steal a line from your favorite comedy movie. If they know where it’s from, great! You’ve established a common interest. If they don’t and it’s still funny, you look like you’re funny and original. Boom-pow!

6. Talk About Love

Apparently people who talk about relationships and love find relationships and love. A study of 1.2 million profiles by Plenty of Fish showed women who got into a relationship online used the word “relationship” 16 percent more than women who were still single.

Think about it: everyone is online to find love. Why not be honest and speak from that place in your heart? Got some Pablo Neruda quotes you’ve been keeping on your intentions board? Maybe you should use them for a headline.

5. Describe Your Attributes… But Only Use Certain Terms

That same eHarmony study also revealed that you should describe the kind of person you are, but only using certain “attractive” words.

Looks like women should use words like sweet, optimistic, and thoughtful, while men should use words like passionate, spontaneous, and perceptive.

You’ll find that all of these terms are positively associated with a quality partner’s characteristics. The lesson here is to put the good things about you at the forefront. It works.

4. Mention Your Interests 

Here is where specifics help you. People want to find commonalities with their match. Disclosing your interests makes for effortless conversations and paints a clearer picture of the type of person you are.

Not just any old interest will do, chess dork. According to a study from OkCupid and Match.com, it’s best if some of the interests below are included because it’s what the popular online dating kids do.

For men, some activities they should include are surfing, hiking, and live music. For women, they should include things like yoga, acting, and fashion.

If you look at these terms carefully, you’ll see the theme is they evoke an attractive picture in the mind’s eye of the reader.

3. Play to Your Gender Biases

Some stereotypes hold true in the online dating sciences, namely men falling in love with what they see and women with what they hear. Play to it. Paint the portrait of yourself with words that attract the opposite sex.

A study by researchers at Queen Mary University of London shows men like women whose names draw to their physical attractiveness, while women like men whose attributes are showcased as intelligent, cultured, brave, and altruistic.

2. Be Confident, But Also Humble 

I would say this means owning what you are — all of it — because confidence receives 23 percent more responses.

Most people in a study conducted by the Pew Research Center were drawn to individuals whose profiles were positive but not over-the-top glowing. People don’t tend to believe it if someone seems too good to be true, so be honest but put your best foot forward.

1. Imitation is the Sincerest Form of Flattery

Scientists from Barts, the London School of Medicine, and The University of North Texas say you should look at the online dating profiles and headlines of people you are interested in and mirror some of those same things.

Similarity breeds affection. Are the objects of your affection all similarly artistic or athletic or academic? You can use words that parallel theirs.

Going after the nerdy hipster? Try something like “NPR, IPA, E3, & U-N-Me.”

Going after the career-driven intellectual? Try something like “I hold an MBA, a library card, and high-brow conversation.”

At the End of the Day, Don’t Stress About Your Headline Too Much

In my experience as an online dating coach, many people won’t even see it. They’ll be too focused on your pics and the details of your profile to make this your online dating Achilles’ heel. It is something you have to write on many dating sites, though, so hopefully you’ve picked up some ideas.

If you’re still completely at a loss for what to say, borrow some famous words. Got any quotes, song lyrics, or movie lines you love? No harm in letting someone else’s words string together your thoughts.


14 Psychological Tricks You Can Use To Be More Successful, At Work & Play

14 Psychological Tricks You Can Use To Be More Successful, At Work & Play

The internet is awash with amateur psychology tips, from ludicrous, life-affirming self-help mumbo jumbo ("Greet your alarm clock every morning by pumping your fist and shouting 'YEAH!'") to beginner level hypnotherapy disguised as creepy 'dating' tips, most of which you can (and should) safely ignore.

At the same time, there are some basic psychological and sociological truths that not only make sense, but upon hearing you realise you've known all along.

In the absence of any sort of relevant qualification, here are the observations we've learned to trust over the years, that should help you work, rest and play with more confidence.

1 | During an introduction, make a note of someone's eye colour. You're not going to use the information (unless you plan to write them a poem) – it's just a technique to achieve the optimum amount of eye contact, which people find friendly and confident.

2 | People always have the clearest memory of first and last thing that happens, while the middle becomes a vague blur. So if you're setting the time for an interview, try and be the first or last through the door.

3 | People's feet are often an insight into what they're thinking. For example, if you approach two people talking and they turn their torso to you but not their feet, they'd prefer you left them alone. Similarly if you're talking to someone and their feet are pointing away from you, they want to escape.

4 | When laughter breaks out in a group of people, each one will instinctively glance at whichever other individual they feel closest to in that group. This is a good way of spotting who is secretly sleeping together at work.

5 | Like all therapists worth their fee, remember to use the power of silence. If someone gives you an unsatisfactory answer to a question, stay quiet and keep eye contact and they'll usually feel pressured to keep talking and reveal more.

6 | If you know someone is going to have a go at you in a meeting, deliberately sit right next to them. The proximity will make them feel less comfortable with being aggressive, and you'll have an easier time of it.

7 | Asking people for small favours trains their brain to believe they like you.

8 | Difficult though it is, if you can get into the habit of not only remembering someone's name when you first meet them, but usingtheir name in the subsequent conversation you have, they'll find you terribly charming and wonderful.

9 | Mirroring people's body language when you interact with them is a way of building up trust. Just be subtle about it.

10 | When walking through a crowd, keep your gaze on the gaps between people rather than the people themselves. Usually, they'll part ways to let you through, meaning less West Side Story moments on Oxford Street.

11 | A date that involves adrenalin – rollercoasters, horror films, getting mugged (OK maybe not that one) – will help simulate arousal in the brain, and make people think they're enjoying your company. Which hopefully they will be anyway.

12 | A warm handshake makes you far more attractive to people than a cold one. The lesson here? Invest in some gloves.

13 | The best way to learn, is to teach. If you're acquiring a new skill or piece of knowledge, bore someone else with it at the first opportunity you get.

14 | Finally: there is nothing more important to people than their self-image. Figure out how people like to think of themselves, and challenge or reinforce it to your advantage.


18 Useful Tips And Tricks For Drivers To Help You Get Through This Winter

18 Useful Tips And Tricks For Drivers To Help You Get Through This Winter

This Couple’s Method Of Tipping Waiters And Waitresses Is The Dumbest Thing I’ve Ever Read

This Couple’s Method Of Tipping Waiters And Waitresses Is The Dumbest Thing I’ve Ever Read

screen-shot-2016-12-09-at-2-58-07-pmAnother day, another story of people figuring out a way to be assholes and make someone’s life miserable by torturing them in the most innocuous way. You’re a straight up asshole if you do this and you’re also violating rule #1 of going to a restaurant:



Just tip 20% like a normal human being. There’s a name for someone who gets their jollies by being a prick: A prick.


Take a look at this part again: So I took the wife out to dinner last night, and we have always talked about doing this. You put five singles out on the table for the waiter/waitress to see. (Don’t say anything to them) if they mess up, you take a dollar away. At the end of dinner, however much is left is their tip.

So right off the bat it’s pretty clear that this dude and his wife are meant for each other, because they are complete assholes.

Let’s look at how Twitter reacted to these two clowns:




In conclusion, if you are these assholes, please stay at home and stuff your face with tuna instead of going out.

10 Tests, Exercises, And Games To Heighten Your Senses And Situational Awareness

10 Tests, Exercises, And Games To Heighten Your Senses And Situational Awareness





  • How many people total were involved in this accident?
  • How many males and how many females?
  • What color were the two cars?
  • What objects were lying on the ground?
  • What injury did the man on the ground seem to be suffering from?
  • What was the license plate number of one of the cars?

How did you do on this little test? Not as well as you would have liked? Perhaps it’s time you strengthened your powers of observation and heightened your situational awareness.

Enhancing one’s observational abilities has numerous benefits: it helps you live more fully in the present, notice interesting and delightful phenomena you would have otherwise missed, seize opportunities that disappear as quickly as they arrive, and keep you and your loved ones safe.

Today we’re going to offer some games, tests, and exercises that will primarily center on that latter advantage: having the kind of situational awareness that can help you prevent and handle potentially dangerous and critical situations. But the benefits of practicing them will certainly carry over into all other aspects of your life as well.

Ready to start heightening your senses and building your powers of observation? Read on.

Situational Awareness and Your Senses


Strengthening your situational awareness involves making sure all of your senses are turned on and fully tuned into your environment. It seems like your mind and body do this automatically — aren’t you seeing, smelling, and hearing everything around you, all the time?

But when someone asks you something like, “What’s your license plate number?” and you draw a blank, you quickly realize that it’s possible to have looked at something hundreds of times without ever seeing it.

In fact, while our brain gives us the feeling that we’re taking in the whole picture of our environment from moment to moment, this is an illusion. We’re really only paying attention to some sets of stimuli, while ignoring others.

Thus, if you want to strengthen your situational awareness, you have to be truly intentional about it — you have to consciously think about utilizing and directing all your senses to a greater degree. You have to train for observation. And the first step in doing so, is getting reacquainted with the powers and pitfalls of your senses:


Seeing is what we typically think of when we think of observation, and it’s what we lean on the most to make sense of our world. Yet what our eyes take in is also not as accurate as our brains would have us believe. Eyewitness accounts of crimes are notoriously unreliable, and famous studies — like the one in which folks are asked to concentrate on people passing a basketball back and forth, and in so doing miss a man in a gorilla suit walking through the picture — show us that we can look right at something, without actually seeing it.

These blind spots are due to the fact that our eyes don’t operate like cameras that record scenes just as they unfold; rather, our brains take in a number of different shots, and then interpret and assemble them together to form a coherent picture. Left on autopilot, our brain ignores many things in our environment, deeming them unimportant in creating this image.

Nevertheless, sight is an incredibly vital part of our situational awareness arsenal — especially if we train ourselves to look for things we’d normally miss. Our eyes tell us if someone looks suspicious or if something is out of place in our hotel room (indicating someone’s been there in our absence); they spot peculiar features of a landscape to help us create a mental map to guide us home from a hike; they take footage of the exits in a building or of a crime that we can remember later.



As sight-driven creatures, we take in a ton of information with our eyes (as much as a third of our brain’s processing power goes towards handling visual input), and most of us feel we’d rather lose our hearing than our sight.

But hearing is far more essential to keeping track of and understanding what’s going on around us than we realize — especially when it comes to staying safe. Our hearing is incredibly attuned to our surroundings and functions as our brain’s first response system, notifying us of things to pay attention to and fundamentally shaping our perception of what’s happening around us. As neuroscientist Seth Horowitz explains:

“You hear anywhere from twenty to one hundred times faster than you see so that everything that you perceive with your ears is coloring every other perception you have, and every conscious thought you have. Sound gets in so fast that it modifies all the other input and sets the stage for it.”

Our hearing is so fast because its circuitry isn’t as widely dispersed in the brain as the visual system is, and because it’s hooked into the brain’s most basic “primal” parts. Noises hit us right in the gut and trigger a visceral emotional response.

The quickness and sharpness of our hearing evolved from its survival advantage. At night, in dense forests, and underneath murky waters, our sight greatly diminishes or completely fails us, and we can’t see anything beyond our field of vision. But our ears can still pick up sensory input in darkness, around corners, and through water in order to build a mental picture of what’s going on.

Noises are nothing more than vibrations, and we’re completely surrounded by them every day. But just like with sight, your ears can be listening to tons of sounds in your environment, without your brain really hearing them; your antennae are always up, but they don’t always send a signal to pay attention. Such signals only register in your conscious awareness when they’re particularly salient (as in when you hear your name said at a busy party), or when they break the usual pattern/tone/rhythm that your brain expects (like when there’s a scream, crash, or explosion, or someone is talking in a strange/suspicious way).

We can tune into more sounds than we usually hear by “perking up” our ears, concentrating, and trying to distinguish and pull out noises we’re usually “ear-blind” to.


In comparison to our senses of sight and hearing, smell doesn’t get much attention and respect. It’s our oldest sense, and we tend to think of it moreso with animals than ourselves — like the wolf that can smell its prey almost 2 miles away.

While dogs indeed have a sense of smell that’s 10,000-100,00X more powerful than ours, the human sense of smell is nothing to, well, sniff at. Humans have the ability to detect one trillion distinct scents. And while our other senses have to be processed by numerous synapses before reaching the amygdala and hippocampus and eliciting a reaction, smell connects with the brain directly, and thus gets deeply attached to our emotions and long-term memories. This is why catching a whiff of something from long ago can instantly transport you back in time.

These ingrained, smell-induced memories serve the same kind of survival purpose in humans as they do in animals — to identify family and mates, find food, and be alerted to possible threats. Our sense of smell is able to distinguish blood kin by scent, and not only can it identify danger through picking up the scents of smoke, death, gas, etc., but can even pick up on fear, stress, and disgust in fellow humans.

Indeed, while the human sense of smell isn’t up to par with animals, studies have shown that we can track a scent trail in the same way dogs do, and that the reason we’re not better at it than we are, is that it’s a skill that has to be developed through practice. Consummate outdoorsman of days gone by who were highly observant of their surroundings often reported becoming able to track an animal by scent.

While both animals and humans process smell in automatic ways — when the smell of freshly baked cookies hits you, your tummy instinctively grumbles — human smell is in one way superior to the animal variety: we have the ability to consciously analyze smells and interpret what they might mean.

Smell can thus help you identify friend or foe, navigate an area — if we’re close to a factory or dump or a grove of pines or the campfire of home base, our nose will let us know — and even track game.


Touch & Taste

Touch and taste are two senses that are incredibly enriching for those seeking to live more mindfully and fully immerse themselves in their experiences. But for the purposes of being situationally aware of risk and danger, you won’t use them as much. Touch can come in handy though when you’re trying to navigate in the dark, and must let the sensations of your feet and hands lead the way.

Training for Observation: 10 Tests, Exercises, and Games You Can Play to Strengthen Your Situational Awareness

“As a Scout, you should make it a point to see and observe more than the average person.” —Scout Field Book, 1948

If our senses are truly as amazing as we’ve just described, and what holds us back from using them more is allowing them to default to autopilot, then we have to find ways to intentionally exercise and challenge them in order to give them full play.

Mastering situational awareness involves learning how to observe, interpret, and remember. The following exercises, tests, and games are designed to strengthen these skills while activating the latent powers of your senses.

Some of the games and exercises can be practiced alone, while others would work best in groups, such as a club, gathering of friends, or Boy Scout troop (several of the ideas in fact come from the 1948 edition of the Boy Scout Fieldbook). The games are also great to do as a family — they’ll keep your kids entertained without your having to reach for the smartphone!

1. “Kim’s Game”

In Rudyard Kipling famous novel Kim, Kimball O’Hara, an Irish teenager, undergoes training to be a spy for the British Secret Service. As part of this training, he is mentored by Lurgan Sahib, an ostensible owner of a jewelry store in British India, who is really doing espionage work against the Russians.

Lurgan invites both his boy servant and Kim to play the “Jewel Game.” The shopkeeper lays 15 jewels out on a tray, has the two young men look at them for a minute, and then covers the stones with a newspaper. The servant, who has practiced the game many times before, is easily able to name and exactly describe all the jewels under the paper, and can even accurately guess the weight of each stone. Kim, however, struggles with his recall and cannot transcribe a complete list of what lies under the paper.

Kim protests that the servant is more familiar with jewels than he is, and asks for a rematch. This time the tray is lined with odds and ends from the shop and kitchen. But the servant’s memory easily beats Kim’s once again, and he even wins a match in which he only feels the objects while blindfolded before they are covered up.

Both humbled and intrigued, Kim wishes to know how the boy has become such a master of the game. Lurgan answers: “By doing it many times over till it is done perfectly — for it is worth doing.”

Over the next 10 days, Kim and the servant practice over and over together, using all different kinds of objects — jewels, daggers, photographs, and more. Soon, Kim’s powers of observation come to rival his mentor’s.

Today this game is known as “Kim’s Game” and it is played both by Boy Scouts and by military snipers to increase their ability to notice and remember details. It’s an easy game to execute: have someone place a bunch of different objects on a table (24 is a good number), study them for a minute, and then cover them with a cloth. Now write down as many of the objects as you can remember. You should be able to recall at least 16 or more.

Here’s an opportunity to play Kim’s Game right now: look at the illustration below for 60 seconds, then scroll past it, and see how many objects you can remember!


How did you do? Better keep practicing!

2. Expand and Enhance Your Field of Vision

Most of us, though we don’t realize it, walk around with tunnel vision. We’re concentrating on a few things directly around or ahead of us, and everything else drops out of our line of sight. So when you’re walking around, remind yourself to take in more than you usually do. Intentionally look for details in your environment you’d ordinarily overlook. Take note of peculiar features in the landscape, what people are wearing, side roads, alleyways, car makes and models, signs, graffiti on the wall — whatever.

To practice expanding your field of vision when you walk, follow these tips from the Boy Scout Fieldbook:

“Learn to scan the ground in front of you…Let your eyes roam slowly in a half-circle from right to left over a narrow strip of land directly before you. Then sweep them from left to right over the ground farther away. By continuing in this way you can cover the whole field thoroughly.”

3. What’s That Sound?

Put up a blanket in the corner of the room. Then take turns standing behind it and making noises with random objects that the rest of the group has to try to identify. The more obscure and challenging the noises people can come up with, the better — think striking a match, peeling an apple, sharpening a knife, combing your hair, etc.  

4. Eyewitness Test

Invite someone who your Scouts/friends don’t know to a group gathering. Have them come in for a few minutes and then leave. Then have everyone write down a physical description of the stranger and see how accurate they are.

5. Navigate by Touch and Feel

Can you dress yourself quickly in a pitch black room? Can you walk through the dark woods without a flashlight? Can you walk around the house blindfolded? Practice maneuvering and navigating without the use of your eyes.

6. Whose Nose Knows?

Have one member of a family/group fill paper cups with a variety of fragrant materials — orange rinds, onion, coffee, spices (cinnamon, pepper, garlic, etc.), grass, Hoppes No. 9 (any of the sources of these manly smells are good candidates) and so on. Then hand the cups to blindfolded participants, who take a sniff, and pass the cup on. Once the cup has been re-collected by the facilitator, the participants write down what they smelled.

7. Feel It

Similar to #6, but place different odds and ends into a box that then gets passed around. The participants have to feel the object and identify it from touch alone.

8. Observation Scavenger Hunt

This is a great one to do with kids, and can turn a long walk in the woods or the city, in which they might be prone to complain, into a fun game, and chance to strengthen their powers of observation! Before you set out, come up with a list of things the kids need to find; for example, on a nature walk you could put down things like a bush with berries, a bird’s nest, moss, a pine cone, etc. As you walk along, the kids will be on the lookout for the listed items, and every time they’re the first to spy one, they can mark another item off their list. See who can find the most things. It doesn’t have to be a competition either; you can all look for the items together as a family and simply keep one checklist.

9. Exit Interview

When you go to a restaurant or other place of business with your family, make a note of a few things about your environment: the number of workers behind the counter, the clothing and gender of the person sitting next to you, how many entrances/exits there are, etc. When you leave and get into the car to head home, ask your kids questions like “How many workers were behind the counter?” “Was the person sitting next to us a man or a woman?” “What color was his/her shirt?” “How many exits were there?”

10. People Watching With a Purpose

In Sir Arthur Conan Doyle’s A Study In Scarlet, Dr. Watson first becomes apprised as to his future companion’s keen powers of observation and deduction. When the pair notices a man walking down the street looking at addresses and carrying a large envelope, Holmes immediately identifies the stranger as a retired Marine sergeant. After the message bearer affirms this identity, Watson is entirely startled at Holmes’ observational powers. “How in the world did you deduce that?” he asks. The detective then offers this explanation:

“It was easier to know it than to explain why I know it. If you were asked to prove that two and two made four, you might find some difficulty, and yet you are quite sure of the fact. Even across the street I could see a great, blue anchor tattooed on the back of the fellow’s hand. That smacked of the sea. He had a military carriage, however, and regulation side-whiskers. There we have the marine. He was a man with some amount of self-importance and a certain air of command. You must have observed the way in which he held his head and swung his cane. A steady, respectable, middle-aged man, too, on the face of him — all facts which led me to believe that he had been a sergeant.”

“Wonderful!” Dr. Watson exclaims.

“Commonplace,” Holmes replies.

If you’d like powers of deduction similar to the resident of 221B Baker St., practice people watching with more deliberation than is usually lent the pastime. Notice the clothing, tattoos, and accessories of passersby, and observe their manners and how they carry themselves. Then try to guess their background and occupation.

With enough practice in this and the other exercises and games outlined above, your senses will be heightened, your powers of observation will increase, and your situational awareness will be strengthened. Soon you’ll be able to say with Holmes: “I have trained myself to notice what I see.”

10 Ways To Drive Your Man WILD (If You're Hot)*

10 Ways To Drive Your Man WILD (If You're Hot)*


Hey hot ladies, looking for a way to DRIVE YOUR MAN WILD??

 Cosmo put together this list of 10 Surefire Tips Guaranteed To DRIVE HIM CRAZY if, as we said, you're already hot. Enough talk, now let's get down to HOTness:


Nothing tells your man "I'm relaxed, but not afraid to show off my curves" quite like yoga pants, an absolute GUARANTEED way to turn on your man as long as you are really hot and the yoga pants are showing off that hotness. This is one yoga class he won't mind going to! WINK! Provided, as we've established, that you are hot.


Nothing drives a man wilder than wearing one of his dress shirts while strutting around the bedroom and also you're hot. It's a great way to convey a sense of boldness while also engendering a comfortable connection with the man's intimate space, but really the first half of this sentence was just stalling because the main takeaway here is be hot.


When polled, nearly 57% of men say that they prefer women who "Wear less makeup," once they've been assured repeatedly that "Who are hot" is not one of the choices in this particular poll and it has been taken as a given in this specific example. Show off that natural hotness, hot ladies!


Hats: They're classy, sassy, and something else-ey, and they don't cover your hot face. Wear them! Or don't wear them, guys probably won't mind either way. But definitely do not wear some giant hat that actually goes down and blocks your hot face so no one knows you're hot, if those types of hats exist. Like, a beekeeper mask, maybe? I guess don't wear that, is the tip here. Man, we're only on Number FOUR?? Oof.


Ask any guy: A sense of humor is an INSTANT turn-on. So are boobs. Hot boobs. Which if you have them, will turn men on. So you see, sometimes laughter is the best medicine...for love! Or at least they are as much that medicine as boobs are.


Drive your man WILD by giving him the cold shoulder from time to time, playing hard to get, telling him 'no', and asserting your power over him - he'll get so hot for you, he won't be able to stand it! Unless you're not hot, in which case, he'll just kind of think you're being a jerk to him and won't care. But if you ARE hot, he'll LOVE IT. Although if you are hot, you could also be shy and he'll be on board too, so, you know, there's more than one way to skin this hotcat.


Guys like em and they're required by law most places so whatever wear them you're hot cool next thing.


Guys are pretty much cool with whatever sex-wise, considering they could fuck a plywood wall and still ejaculate, but this is the name of a position and it'll make him orgasm and those are super.


Everyone likes bears.


Couldn't have a Cosmo list without blowjobs. How do they fit here, precisely? Not my job to figure that out. I'm just here to name 87,000 nouns and verbs that humans can wear/do, and if they're already attracted to you, guys will continue being attracted to you no matter which ones you pick.

So remember: Don't be a fool, something something word that rhymes with "fool" and be hot!

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