The Heartbreak Of Not Having A Vagina
If you think you’ve had a rough couple of years you’re going to want to read about this poor woman who was born without a vagina. Yep, read that again: without a vagina.
Kaylee Moats, a 22-year-old woman from Gilbert, has lived a difficult life all because she suffers from Mayer Rokitansky Küster Hauser syndrome, which means Moats has no cervix, uterus or vaginal opening. And even though she doesn’t have a vagina, Moats does have a boyfriend named Robbie Limmer who doesn’t care about the lack of sex in their relationship. Well, whatever you say, Robbie.
Moats finally realized she didn’t have an actual vagina when she was 18-years-old.
Miss Moats was diagnosed aged 18 when, alarmed by the fact she had not yet got her period, she took a trip to the gynecologist. She waited so long to go because her family thought she was just a late bloomer and would experience her first period later than most girls. When doctors revealed the news that she didn’t have a uterus, she was left heartbroken and confused.
She said: “I was scared for the future because I didn’t know what’s coming up next and how I would be able to have my own family one-day. I didn’t know that I didn’t have a vaginal opening until later on because they only did an ultrasound at first. This was even worse when I found out because I already accepted the fact that I couldn’t carry my own children, but that just brought another set of worries for me.”
The eventual visit to the gynecologist was sparked following years of confusion over putting in tampons, as she struggled to work out where it went.
But now four years later Moats has set up a GoFundMe account to finally get a surgery that will allow doctors to create a vaginal opening, allowing Moats to be able to have an intimate relationship like any other woman would experience.
“I am looking forward to having a sexual relationship,” Moats says. “I’m not sure If I want to wait until marriage but I think having that option there is a lot more comforting…I’m a bit nervous to have sex for the first time after surgery because I’m not sure if something is going to go wrong down there or if it’s going to hurt.”
But Moats says that even with all that chaos down below Robbie is still by her side.
“I do think it sucks that I can’t do sexual things with Robbie even if I wanted too but that hasn’t really been the focus of our relationship,” Moats adds. “The only people that know about my condition is my family, a few relatives, Robbie and some friends.”
Here’s what else Moats had to say about this:
“I’ve already accepted the fact I can’t carry my own children but this part of my life is a constant worry. It would be nice to not have to worry about it anymore. I try daily to not let it get me down and make me feel a less of a person and define me. That’s a daily struggle for me and I’m still trying to accept myself, accept what I have and not dwell on it.”
As I am writing this Moats has raised over $6,600 of her $15,000 goal.
Take a look at the video below to hear more about Moats’ story.