Six Tinder Red Flags You Should Be Looking Out For As You’re Swiping
Online dating is a minefield of craziness. To be honest, it’s not a bad idea to tell your friends where you’re going before an online date, just in case their date turns out to be a serial killer. The truth is, no one knows what they’re getting into or who they’ve matched with on Tinder, sometimes until it’s too late. As someone who met their current significant other online, I have become somewhat of an expert in identifying red flags on dating apps. Even though this is by no means a fool-proof list, by noticing these six red flags, you’re one step closer to weeding out every crazy you swipe right on.
1. They’re Overly Specific About Body Types
One of the strangest and most uncouth things you can do on a dating app is make a public declaration of the body types you will and will not talk to. Sure, it’s natural to have a “type” and to only match with people you are physically attracted to. However, it’s another thing entirely to be super public about your internalized body-phobias and/or possible racism. If you match with a someone who says they’re only into white guys, or tall guys, or fit guys, maybe it’s time to unmatch.
2. You’re Not Sure Which Person They Are
If all their photos are group photos, and you’re never 100% sure which one they are, keep in mind that they’re being vague in their profile for a reason. That reason may or may not include that they’re catfishing you or those photos were taken 10 years ago. Either way, it is strange to only post group photos on a dating app, since you’re just trying to date one of them; not the entire squad. (I assume.)
3. All Their Pictures Look Different
In addition to that last point, if they look extremely different in all of their photos, the reality is they’re probably a 50-year-old man living down the street from you or a simple Tinder bot trying to scam you. If you can’t get a good sense of how they look from their photos due to extreme makeup, lighting, and angles, ask yourself why they’re so eager to dupe you into not being clear on how they’re look in person.
4. They Mention Their Ex Almost Immediately
Tinder is the battleground where recently single people go to find new love and new lust. If your Tinder match immediately brings up their ex, take it as a sign that you can either dive headfirst into that emotional baggage — or walk away. If they’re comfortable enough to tell you about their ex immediately, imagine how it’ll feel on a date with them for hours as they non-stop relive the highs and lows of their relationship with you.
5. They Demand Too Much Too Soon
No matter what your reasons for using Tinder are, the reality is that no one should be pushing you to see your bits and pieces until you’ve met in person. If your Tinder match is immediately pressuring you to send them naked photos of yourself, it is time to back away and suggest they visit PornHub.com.
6. They Reveal Too Much Too Soon
This is vastly different than mentioning their ex, as you know people come with a lot more emotional baggage other than their previous relationship. If you’re chatting with someone and all they seem to want to do is walk you through the most emotionally painful moments of their life without being able to see their personality and appreciate them despite their struggles, chances are they’re a mess. Some people feel too comfortable sharing their stories with strangers, and trust me when I say it won’t get any less awkward after you meet them.
I wish I could tell you that online dating is easy, and that just these six tips will help you avoid all the crazies on them. However, it’s important to keep in mind that online dating has become less about connecting and more about noticing the surface appeal of a potential date. The reality is, there’s no way to know if someone is right or wrong for you on Tinder unless you give it a shot. Hopefully by sharing these six tips, you’ll avoid wasting time and money on dates that suck. Tinder is hell, dating is hell — but we’ll get through it together.
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